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I'm seriously considering eloping. Already the wedding planning is a nightmare from guestlist to finances and family disagreements. I figured we could combine an elopement with a honeymoon,saving heartache and money by going to Italy perhaps Venice as a two in one deal lol. I think the family would be understanding of that. Maybe the night before we could gather our closests kin for a pre-wedding celebration. What do you wish you would have done different?

I have 37 days to go, and at this point, I wish we had just run off and eloped.  Or had a teeny tiny wedding.  I'm having horrible cold feet, and I never thought I would.  I wish we had just gotten married on the spur of the moment so I didn't have a chance to have cold feet.

Aww at least you're now married to your loves and you don't have to deal with the drama, my adventure has only just begun lol. That's my dilemma, I want it to be about us not the wedding and def not paying beaucoup dollars for some ppl to be perfectly honest I don't even like that much ;)

We are kinda doing BOTH - eloping a year before the ceremony. I think it will take a lot of stress off knowing that we are already married and have been for a year, but NOBODY else will know that at the wedding. It's going to be our little secret.

My DH and I decided to get hitched just the two of us in Las Vegas (didn't really elope cuz everyone knew what we were doing) and we definitely don't regret it! We still spent more money than we planned to originally, but we did end up saving a lot of money as well. We had an at home reception the week after we returned and that brought us the most stress and in the end it didn't turn out very well either. Our wedding ceremony was perfect though and so very us!

@Eva Peron:

Lol that made me smile, Congrats have a wonderful day!

You ladies are awesome, thank you for the advice, whatever way we end up doing this thang will be forever remembered!

Some days I wish I could, but my family would kill me. When it's all over, I am still holding out hope I will think it's worth it? lol

@kellyj23: I like your idea, the more I think about it the more convinced I am on eloping. The planning was at the early stages and already I was bombarded with ideas and questions or comments "how much is the venue" "are you sure you can afford that?""well if you invite two sisters you might as well invite all four" "NO kids in the wedding? Thats a little rude" I just kept going aghhhh so my genious plan is to elope somewhere I always wanted to go to: venice, italy. That way almost no one will be offended. I say almost bc im sure to get the "they couldnt afford a REAL wedding but they run off to italy!?" Loling

@CharmCityLady:

I find that im super excited too! January is right around the corner! Let us know how it goes!

Elope!  When I think of how much money we spent on our wedding, I kinda want to puke a little bit.  While my wedding was gorgeous, everything went relatively smoothly with family, and just about everything went as planned, I still felt a little bit of a let down after it was over.  I thought, "ALL this planning, obsessing, money, diy'ing, family coming from all around the world.... ALL this just for ONE day?  Not even a whole day, but a half a day!"  In hindsight, as lovely as it was, it didn't live up to my expecations and it didn't seem worth it.  If I could change it, I would take the money I spent and go around the world to visit all the family that came rather than have them come to me all at once.  I barely had time to visit any of them for very long and having them all here at once was very stressful.

So to recap: wedding was very nice, but not nice enough to justify 12 thousand dollars spent for half a day.

I wanted to elope, but FI was against it. He feared I'd regret it, and thought friends and family should be there with/for us. We still have just under 8 months until the big day, and each day we get closer, I regret having the wedding.. I'm not good in front of crowds, I can't make a decision to save my life.. it's all just one big headache for me.

oh god, this thread is making me consider it now too!

BUT, my FI's family has already bought their flights from back East, and we really do want a wedding... just not a BIG wedding. somehow the guest list keeps growing, like a science experiment on mold.

Update: We originally wanted to elope but I thought how wonderful it would be if at least our parents were present. I was definately not going to consider a full blown event so I came up with a happy medium: to get married on a cruise ship in NYC before it takes off to the Bahamas. It would be inexpensive, cool venue and only a limited number of people our number looks about 12 of our immediate family. Thanks for all the suggestions ladies!

I really did want to elope.  Or at least have a small, very small group of family and friends run away with us.  In the end I was convinced by my husband that we couldn't because his family would be devestated.  I only regret not eloping slightly.  I did have a wonderful time (and I didn't stress leading up to the wedding) and I know everyone really enjoyed being a part of our celebration.  So I guess the "big" wedding was actually worth it.  I have told my husband though, that we are doing a vow renewal so I get what I originally wanted.