Post # 1
I’m a singer. I’m far from professional but pretty good if I do say so myself. Both of our families have been asking if I plan to perform at our wedding and I don’t know how I feel about it. I don’t really think that our wedding is the appropriate place to put on a mini concert but others seem to disagree. We’re having karaoke for the last few hours of our reception so I figured I would just spend some time doing that.
Well, now I’m considering recording our first dance song. Up until a few nights ago we didn’t even have a song but then we watched Glee. Santana sang “Songbird” and I absolutely fell in love with it. I’ve known the song for years but the original version never did much for me. The way Santana sang it was perfect. She and I have similar voices and I really think that I could pull it off. I’ve recorded in the past and studio time isn’t really that expensive so I’m considering recording the song to use as our first dance. I haven’t discussed this with FI yet since I’m entertaining the idea of keeping it a surprise. I think that if I could pull it off it would make a really touching moment between us even sweeter. Do you think this is a bad idea?
To the musically inclined bees among us, did/are you perform(ing) at your wedding?
Post # 3
I originally planned on recording our first dance song, but with all the budget wackiness didn’t pursue it 🙁
I was short on time, too and my DJextraordinaire needed a few more weeks than we had.
If a chunk of money fell on my lap this week I’d totally make it happen!
Doing it as a surprise solved my ridiculous stage fright issues (you’d think someone that was a voice major in school would freaking get over it already) and any added emotions that would impede my performance vs. doing it live.
I’d say go for it- if you do it recorded you can dance to it and enjoy it, and still have fun with karoake later in the night without feeling like you’re in the spotlight the whole time 🙂
Post # 4
I think that sounds awesome! I have no musical skills, but FI’s brother is an awesome guitarist, so he’s playing instrumental versions of our favorite songs for the processional and bridal entrance. I think recording your first song is a great idea, because then you don’t have to feel pressured to put on a performance at your wedding, but it’s still a wonderful personal touch. I’m so jealous!!
Post # 5
I’m married already, but planning a vow renewal so we can have the wedding we originally wanted. I was a professional singer for years so people always bug me to sing, but I’m not going to be doing it at our party. I know people are like “Sing, sing!” but I don’t think I would be comfortable. If you feel like recording a song, go for it, especially if it would have special meaning.
Post # 6
No–to me my wedding was not the place for me to give a recital.
Post # 7
@kybride: I agree with this completely. I actually had a few relatives ask if I was going to sing, and I told them that the day was about DH and I getting married, not about me performing.
Post # 8
FH and I are both musicians that play several instruments. We play in our own “band” together (just for enjoyment). Music is, and has always been, a major part of our relationship. In fact, the first time FH saw me was when I was singing in choir class in high school while he was in guitar class! We won’t be “performing”, so to speak, but we will be recording covers for our ceremony music. We’re thinking Bright Eyes “First day of my life”, Plain White Tee’s “1, 2, 3, 4”, and a cover of “Sea of Love”, Cat Power’s style. I’ll be singing, he’ll play guitar. We have a recording studio in the house, so it won’t cost anything, and it won’t be like a recital either. We’re actually hoping no one really notices….it’s just really important to us.
Post # 9
The closest we will get is inviting a number of people I’ve performed with. I have severe audition anxiety (lock jaw, wheezing, pale & clammy, etc) and that carries over to solos and small ensemble work. A pep tune (Time Lords/Doctorin the Tardis) may be in the last set for my BUGWB friends but that’s if I can convince FH that it’s not as ridiculous as he makes it out to be- he should just be happy I don’t want to close with Tennessee Waltz (a BUGWB tradition that will make anyone whose marched with us cry).
Oh, and the processional is a piece I’ve played quite a few times, and I may use a DCI/Blast! version because of how awesome I think it is.
Post # 10
I think it would be great to have that extra personal touch to your wedding. I wish FI would so something for our wedding but I think he’s too nervous. He played the piano though at his sisters wedding when she walked up the aisle.
Post # 11
FI and I are thinking about recording our first dance song, also. I’m just not sure about it. I think it’ll be weird to dance to a song that we’re singing?? I’m not sure.
For me, performing “live” would be really nerve-wracking and I don’t want that on my wedding day. I would rather be able to just relax after the nerve-stuff is all done! 🙂
Post # 12
I’m a Christian songwriter, so I really want to write a song for my wedding. Already have one in the works. Of course, I don’t have a BOYFRIEND in the works. 🙁 Figures…..
Post # 13
@kybride:agreed. I sing as well, and my fiance loves it but I talked it over with my parents and his parents and they agreed it would be a bit showy and not very wedding repesctful to sing a solo at the wedding.
Plus, all eyes are going to be on us anyway, I think singing may be over kill.
Post # 14
FI and I are both musicians…we won’t be performing any music ourselves, but let me tell you…we will have other people (all friends, many are professionals,) doing some AWESOME music for us! 🙂
Post # 15
@red_rose: Thats so cool!! It’ll make the weddding so special <3
Post # 16
My FI is a musician. He won’t be performing, but we’re having a string quartet in honor of his love of music.