Post # 1
My friend and I are having a debate and your input is appreciated. Gratuity is already included in the contract with the reception hall, but now her planner tells her that she should provide additional tips to staff on the day of her event. What do you think?
Post # 2
My choice isnt an option, I will be paying my required grats, and will have envelopes of additional grats for excellent service. If the bartender sucks, nope. If the DJ is amazing , heres an extra tip etc. Tips are reward for good service, not mandatory.
Post # 3
I would say no. The idea that ‘tips’ are already an included extra baffles me (I know this happens in the states a lot). It is not a TIP when you are forced to pay a certain amount. They may as well add it to the cost per person. (Or costs of meals etc at restaurants)
Post # 4
Scou: this is coming from someone who has worked in the restaurant industry, on and off for 13yrs, that is a good call, I like that idea. I know for me, when I did weddings, sweet 16’s, hell just waiting on a large party, I gave EVERYTHING and to be rewarded extra and recognized is great. However, I have been waitied on by terrible people and worked with terrible people and they think they are owed an extra tip at the end of the night. I know it isn’t required, but I always looked forward to it, (and because I always went above and beyond for weddings) would always be a little pissed when I didn’t get tipped….even $20 (…which, with large parties, you pool with everyone, so really comes to like $2)
Post # 5
why would you tip on top of already tipping (gratuity)?! that just doesn’t make sense
ps- watch your bill closely and make sure your gratuity is calculated BEFORE taxes are added on!! sneaky, sneaky vendors
Post # 6
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
Are you SURE it’s already included in the contract? I thought the “Service Fee”was the tip until I asked and found out that was to cover their salaries but not the tip.
Tips are usually not included in any contract.
Post # 7
I’m all for tipping and always tip well at restaraunts, but I just can’t justify tipping on top of the tip– $125pp + 20% gratutity automatically added on thats a $25 tip per person. Unfortunately we aren’t working with an unlimited budget, and weddings are expensive enough as it is. We just want a nice little wedding & celebrate our marriage, we can’t afford to make everyone else rich. I think if they want more money or bigger tips they should include it in the upfront package.
Post # 8
missmorris710: I have also worked in restaurants and service industries for many years and I base my decision on this. I also have many guests (1/2 of my bridal party and MANY of our guests) who are or have been servers and will be using their opinions to help decide. Everyone gets the group pooled tips, but if I hand a server and extra $20 for ensuring my celiac mum gets special service, im telling them to KEEP IT! hahaha.
Post # 9
In the fine lines for the contract, for the venue of my daughter’s bridal shower, it breaks down the 20% service charge into a 12% administration fee and 8% gratuity. So of course, I tipped the personnel who worked the event.
Post # 10
Blah! I hate tipping. And this is coming from an ex-waitress. I truly wish we could just get rid of all tipping. Pay people a fair salary and leave it at that. It’s so random what we tip and what we don’t. We tip taxi drivers but not doctors. Hairdressers but not accountants. Waitresses but not chefs. And Americans are the worst. We tip higher amounts and more professions than any other country. However, it’s not likely to change overnight, so I do tip when I need to. But I do go out of my way to avoid tipping, including hiring vendors that are private business owners when we had out wedding. The only person who was not their own business owner was our DJ and he freaking rocked, so he got a really good tip. Everybody else just got their contracted rate. Also outside of weddings, I was thrilled when I found a locall salon that doesn’t accept tips. I will drive across town to go there!!!
Post # 11
Scou: I really like that idea. FI and I will always tip but we tip more for excellent service. I think in the case where gratuity is already included in the fees you can be selective on who you tip/how much based solely on service!
Post # 12
Thank you to everyone who responded. Your thoughts led to many group conversations and contract reviews.
Post # 13
ifrancis: um, no I will not be paying additional gratuity to the staff, I think 20% is more than enough. Gratuity for my wedding was an extra $6K.
The only people I tipped on the day of my wedding were the following:<br /><br />Bridal Attendant – they were the only staff of the catering hall that were addtional tipped because they catered to us hand and foot all day. My bridal attendant was so amazing, I wanted to take her home with me Lol, I always had a drink in my hand, if I needed someone she would go get them, she should have been my MOH!
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