To tip or not to tip

posted 2 years ago in Money
  • poll: Will you pay additional gratuity to staff on the day of your event, even if its included in the cont
    yes, I will pay the additional gratuity : (14 votes)
    31 %
    no, I will NOT pay the additional gratuity : (28 votes)
    62 %
    I haven't thought about it : (3 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 2
    631 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    My choice isnt an option, I will be paying my required grats, and will have envelopes of additional grats for excellent service. If the bartender sucks, nope. If the DJ is amazing , heres an extra tip etc. Tips are reward for good service, not mandatory. 



    Post # 3
    1317 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would say no. The idea that ‘tips’ are already an included extra baffles me (I know this happens in the states a lot). It is not a TIP when you are forced to pay a certain amount. They may as well add it to the cost per person. (Or costs of meals etc at restaurants)

    Post # 4
    108 posts
    Blushing bee


    Scou:  this is coming from someone who has worked in the restaurant industry, on and off for 13yrs, that is a good call, I like that idea. I know for me, when I did weddings, sweet 16’s, hell just waiting on a large party, I gave EVERYTHING and to be rewarded extra and recognized is great. However, I have been waitied on by terrible people and worked with terrible people and they think they are owed an extra tip at the end of the night. I know it isn’t required, but I always looked forward to it, (and because I always went above and beyond for weddings) would always be a little pissed when I didn’t get tipped….even $20 (…which, with large parties, you pool with everyone, so really comes to like $2) 

    Post # 5
    314 posts
    Helper bee

    why would you tip on top of already tipping (gratuity)?! that just doesn’t make sense

    ps- watch your bill closely and make sure your gratuity is calculated BEFORE taxes are added on!! sneaky, sneaky vendors

    Post # 6
    913 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

    Are you SURE it’s already included in the contract? I thought the “Service Fee”was the tip until I asked and found out that was to cover their salaries but not the tip. 

    Tips are usually not included in any contract. 

    Post # 7
    88 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I’m all for tipping and always tip well at restaraunts,  but I just can’t justify tipping on top of the tip– $125pp + 20% gratutity automatically added on thats a $25 tip per person.  Unfortunately we aren’t working with an unlimited budget, and weddings are expensive enough as it is. We just want a nice little wedding & celebrate our marriage, we can’t afford to make everyone else rich.  I think if they want more money or bigger tips they should include it in the upfront package.

    Post # 8
    631 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    missmorris710:  I have also worked in restaurants and service industries for many years and I base my decision on this. I also have many guests (1/2 of my bridal party and MANY of our guests) who are or have been servers and will be using their opinions to help decide. Everyone gets the group pooled tips, but if I hand a server and extra $20 for ensuring my celiac mum gets special service, im telling them to KEEP IT! hahaha. 

    Post # 9
    3653 posts
    Sugar bee

    In the fine lines for the contract, for the venue of my daughter’s bridal shower, it breaks down the 20% service charge into a 12% administration fee and 8% gratuity. So of course, I tipped the personnel who worked the event.

    Post # 10
    9526 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Blah! I hate tipping. And this is coming from an ex-waitress. I truly wish we could just get rid of all tipping. Pay people a fair salary and leave it at that. It’s so random what we tip and what we don’t. We tip taxi drivers but not doctors. Hairdressers but not accountants. Waitresses but not chefs. And Americans are the worst. We tip higher amounts and more professions than any other country. However, it’s not likely to change overnight, so I do tip when I need to. But I do go out of my way to avoid tipping, including hiring vendors that are private business owners when we had out wedding. The only person who was not their own business owner was our DJ and he freaking rocked, so he got a really good tip. Everybody else just got their contracted rate. Also outside of weddings, I was thrilled when I found a locall salon that doesn’t accept tips. I will drive across town to go there!!!

    Post # 11
    587 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Scou:  I really like that idea. FI and I will always tip but we tip more for excellent service. I think in the case where gratuity is already included in the fees you can be selective on who you tip/how much based solely on service! 

    Post # 13
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    ifrancis:  um, no I will not be paying additional gratuity to the staff, I think 20% is more than enough. Gratuity for my wedding was an extra $6K. 

    The only people I tipped on the day of my wedding were the following:<br /><br />Bridal Attendant – they were the only staff of the catering hall that were addtional tipped because they catered to us hand and foot all day. My bridal attendant was so amazing, I wanted to take her home with me Lol, I always had a drink in my hand, if I needed someone she would go get them, she should have been my MOH!



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