Post # 1
Hi Bees —
Im kinda stuck on the whole garter toss/ bouquet toss thing and right now, I really feel like I dont want to do either of these! especially the garter toss. I thought I was the only weird one who felt this way, but my friend is getting married and she too said she doesnt want to do this.
Are there any other brides out there who are skipping this part of the wedding? Is it really THAT important?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I know LOTS of people who are skipping it (us included!). If you don’t want to do it, then don’t! No big deal, and I’m sure most people won’t miss it at al!
Post # 4
we didn’t do it. first of all, we didn’t have that many single girls and guys so i wasn’t going to make just a few of them stand out there. i know i always hated having to go out like there’s a sign on my forehead saying “I’M SINGLE!” plus, i really dislike the garter toss for me, as i’m very uncomfortable with my husband going under my dress in front of anybody.
Post # 5
ART — I feel the same way!!! I would feel very uncomfortable! hahha. and yes most of the wedding party are already married!! and too each other! hhahah.
Ok i feel better. =) its OUT! Thank you girls!
Post # 6
i feel the same way. i think it is a strange tradition that doesn’t feel right to us. and i feel bad for the people who are supposed to participate. maybe when you are younger and have like 30 singles in the room, but when its a small amount, it just makes them feel weird. plus, those bouquets are just too beautiful to throw 🙂
Post # 7
We’re skipping them. The bouquet will be given to the couple who has been married the longest (all married couples dance to a song and the DJ announces if you have been married less than a day to exit the floor, then 1 year, then 5 years, etc). Maybe a little cheesy but I didn’t want to do the traditional tosses.
Post # 8
We have a 3 year old daughter, and of course she will be out flower girl… I kinda want to “toss” her my bouquet =) Make her feel special. she is my world. I thought that was a cute idea.
preserving it somehow and put it in a shadow box, with a black n white wedding phot of us, the clay ring bearer bowl ( i really like this instead of the pillow) and my bouquet will have a locket with my fathers picture in it, so he is still “Walking me down the isle”
Post # 10
Definitely skipping, for many reasons, but mostly because I’ve never never enjoyed either.
Post # 11
We didn’t do it. I didn’t happen to have any single women at my reception, but I wouldn’t have done the bouquet toss regardless. As a single person, I always resented being strong-armed onto the dance floor for the bouquet toss (it’s surprising how aggressive people at weddings can be!), and I swore I would never have that at my wedding. And frankly, I’ve always been sort of grossed out by the whole garter toss thing. Sorry, really don’t need to see the groom groping around under the bride’s skirt to some cheesy burlesque tune! And then some yahoo hanging the garter from his rearview mirror or something … just ugh!
Post # 12
fontgoddess saved me from typing that paragraph which i support 1001%
I absolutely CAN’T stand the bouquet toss. Even when I was a child I never understood it. Mind you it was only two years ago I found out about the man who catches the garter has to put it on the woman who catches the bouquet and try to put up as high as possible. Its a disgusting practice that I hope dies out by the time my hopefully one day children are old enough to marry.
Post # 13
I am doing a bouquet toss but not the garter toss. I think that we are just too old to do it. Most of our friends are married. The single ones are all girls so we are keeping the bouquet toss.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2016 - Virmond Park
I absolutely HATE the whole garter/bouquet toss thing…I will not be doing nothing of the sort.
Post # 15
Skipping! …there’s a possibility that we’ll toss the bouquet, but if we do, we’ll decide that on the day of. I’m definitely not doing the garter toss.
Post # 16
Looks like you’ve got quite a following…we aren’t doing the bouquet/garter toss either. I’ve never been a big fan of gathering up the single ladies for everyone to see (hate to do this at weddings myself) and I agree with fontgoddess on the garter. I don’t need to see the groom removing a garter with his teeth, much less my FI doing that to me while my grandma looks on. I don’t even plan on buying a garter for the wedding. One less thing to budget for.