(Closed) To Toss or Not To Toss…..

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I know LOTS of people who are skipping it (us included!). If you don’t want to do it, then don’t! No big deal, and I’m sure most people won’t miss it at al!

Post # 4
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6573 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

we didn’t do it. first of all, we didn’t have that many single girls and guys so i wasn’t going to make just a few of them stand out there. i know i always hated having to go out like there’s a sign on my forehead saying “I’M SINGLE!” plus, i really dislike the garter toss for me, as i’m very uncomfortable with my husband going under my dress in front of anybody.

Post # 6
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12 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i feel the same way. i think it is a strange tradition that doesn’t feel right to us. and i feel bad for the people who are supposed to participate. maybe when you are younger and have like 30 singles in the room, but when its a small amount, it just makes them feel weird. plus, those bouquets are just too beautiful to throw 🙂

Post # 7
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We’re skipping them.  The bouquet will be given to the couple who has been married the longest (all married couples dance to a song and the DJ announces if you have been married less than a day to exit the floor, then 1 year, then 5 years, etc).  Maybe a little cheesy but I didn’t want to do the traditional tosses.

Post # 9
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125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

skipping!

Post # 10
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1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Definitely skipping, for many reasons, but mostly because I’ve never never enjoyed either.

Post # 11
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445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

We didn’t do it. I didn’t happen to have any single women at my reception, but I wouldn’t have done the bouquet toss regardless. As a single person, I always resented being strong-armed onto the dance floor for the bouquet toss (it’s surprising how aggressive people at weddings can be!), and I swore I would never have that at my wedding. And frankly, I’ve always been sort of grossed out by the whole garter toss thing. Sorry, really don’t need to see the groom groping around under the bride’s skirt to some cheesy burlesque tune! And then some yahoo hanging the garter from his rearview mirror or something … just ugh!

Post # 12
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7463 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

fontgoddess saved me from typing that paragraph which i support 1001%

I absolutely CAN’T stand the bouquet toss. Even when I was a child I never understood it. Mind you it was only two years ago I found out about the man who catches the garter has to put it on the woman who catches the bouquet and try to put up as high as possible. Its a disgusting practice that I hope dies out by the time my hopefully one day children are old enough to marry.

Post # 13
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1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am doing a bouquet toss but not the garter toss.  I think that we are just too old to do it.  Most of our friends are married.  The single ones are all girls so we are keeping the bouquet toss.

Post # 14
Hostess
4335 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - Virmond Park

I absolutely HATE the whole garter/bouquet toss thing…I will not be doing nothing of the sort.

Post # 15
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1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Skipping!  …there’s a possibility that we’ll toss the bouquet, but if we do, we’ll decide that on the day of.  I’m definitely not doing the garter toss.

Post # 16
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642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Looks like you’ve got quite a following…we aren’t doing the bouquet/garter toss either.  I’ve never been a big fan of gathering up the single ladies for everyone to see (hate to do this at weddings myself) and I agree with fontgoddess on the garter.  I don’t need to see the groom removing a garter with his teeth, much less my FI doing that to me while my grandma looks on.  I don’t even plan on buying a garter for the wedding.  One less thing to budget for.

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