To Try or Not to Try (An e-ring of course)

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Personally, I’d go try it on. I would always wonder if not, and it sounds to me like you have an open line of communication about rings in general so I’d try it on, then probably mention it to him casually, what you thought.

If he did already buy a ring, he can exchange it before or after the proposal.

Post # 3
68 posts
Worker bee

If it were me, I would go and try it on, just to be able to see if I love it as much as I think I do and hopefully gain some peace of mind. I’d probably try some other rings on while I was there, just to get a feel for the options and how I feel about them. 

But I wouldn’t tell him I did it because if it’s NOT the one that he bought I wouldn’t want to send him into a tailspin. If he wants it to be a surprise and do it his way then I’d let him. 

Believe me . . . I’m a type A control freak personality so I get it. Completely. And I am having to practice what I preach and I know it is HARD.

Post # 6
31 posts

I would go try it on. 

Even if he did get another ring that you may end up loving….You can still have the other ring at some point as well, so there are options to make all the scenrios work.

Post # 7
68 posts
Worker bee

Perfpersnickety – Me not having control over any of this is like torture. I’m pretty sure my SO has the ring (ordered online so I’ve never seen it in person much less tried it on) by now as he was trying to be all sly when checking his email on his phone the other day – but I saw that the email he was trying to hide was a shipping notice for the ring. He is so set on me being surprised that since he texted me a photo of the ring and asked what I thought about it, he will probably want to wait forever to actually propose just to make sure I’m not expecting it. 

Post # 8
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

My rings are a done deal — both e-ring and wedding band are family heirlooms, he says, although I still have yet to see them. But we’ll need to get his ring. So for fun, a couple months ago, he tried on a few rings while we were out shopping. I kept sneaking glances at the e-rings, silently jealous that he gets this experience and I don’t. Finally, a couple weeks ago, I told him that I will be so honored to receive his family’s rings, but I also wanted to try on a few for fun. I felt silly, but to my surprise, he just told me that I was right, that I should get that experience, and he dragged me into the nearest jewelry store. So should you try on that ring? You betcha!!

Post # 9
1202 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Tell him you’re going to go try it on.  See how he reacts.  I think it’s quite mean to let you try it on, fall in love, then buy you something else.  Also, you might dislike how it looks on your hand.  You’ll spare yourself a lot of stress if you just tell him.        

Post # 10
370 posts
Helper bee

I’d try it on. I was in love with a three stone ring with scroll work from jamesallen. I went to mall with my bff and we decided to try on rings for fun. I tried on a three stone similar to the one I loved, turns out I love the way they look but hated them on my finger. My friend agreed. Turns out I love plain solitaires, when looking online I hated them the most. Trying them on and seeing them online definitely changes things. 

Post # 11
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Hunting Hill Mansion

Perfpersnickety:  I would be upfront and honest about how you’re feeling to him. I would ask him one more time to go with you because you are worried about not actually loving your dream ring. If he says no, go alone or with a friend, but tell him you’re going. Then you can either tell him you had nothing to worry about and you love it or it wasn’t for you afterall. 

I can totally empathize with you when it comes to control — I’ve been driving my SO crazy telling him over and over again what kind of “specs” I want for my ring. He just rolls his eyes and says, “I do pay attention, you know!” I’m just freaking out! It’s so hard not to be the one swiping my card at the store this time 😛

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