Post # 1
My best friend is currently dating DH’s older brother (so he’s my BIL.) They have been dating 6mths and BIL says he is proposing to her sometime this month. They picked already picked a date for April 2014 and I am so happy for them. The problem is I have by the baby itch really bad….
DH and dated 4 1/2 yrs before we got married and now that we are, I’m kind of ready to pop out some mini mes. Lol. But I REALLY don’t want to be preggers during all of BFF’s wedding festivities and pics. The other issue is I am not 100% sure that I will even be asked to be in the wedding party. (Another long story.) I waver back and forth on wanting to be in it, but overall I can care less. I know I am still young (I’m 26 and FI is 28) and still have time to have kids, that’s not the issue. The issue is my actually wanting to stop NTNTC and actively TTC at some point this year, but I don’t wanna ruin BFF’s wedding memories if I’m a blimp and can’t/don’t want to do much by the time the wedding comes around.
Im not sure what I’m looking for…. I guess I just want your opinions on if you would feel some type of way if your friend knew you were getting married and got pregnant anyway. (Planned or unplanned.)
Post # 3
I wouldn’t have a problem with it.
Post # 4
I dont think you need to wait to start your family. FI and i are getting married this summer and will be NTNP right away. My brother is getting married the summer of 2014. OH WELL if i am preggo at that time. Its life.
Post # 5
As long a pregnancy wouldn’t stop you from going to the wedding, I think it’d be fine.
Post # 6
It can take time to get pregnant and in my oppion Life shouldn’t stop for other people just because someones getting married. My sister in law was 7 months pregnant at our wedding and I loved it. Now when my niece is older I can tell her she was my littlest bridesmaid. (Had to share a photo because she’s so darn cute!)
Post # 7
@MrsHoneyC: lovely photos!! so cute 🙂
I think there is never a ‘right’ time…it will always be, well it wouldn’t be convenient on holidays, christmas is the busiest time of year….or that party, work trip etc etc, like @Swizzle: said it really is life. If you are both ready emotionally and financially I say go for it!
Post # 8
Hm..my BFF is getting married this year too and we just quit all forms of birth control..I’m not sure what NTNTC means exactly, but I’m actually kinda hoping I do get pregnant…but I”m not tracking ovulation or anything of the sort.
I had plent of pics of myself skinny and looking perfect at my own wedding last summer…I really don’t mind at all if I’m pregnant at her wedding. I am in the bridal party and I am buying a dress in the next month…but I honestly think it would be great if It happens. And my BFF even mentioned that when she thinks of her wedding day, she imagines me pregnant for some reason, lol….so I know she wouldn’t mind a bit.
Bottom line, I wouldn’t put your life on hold for someone else’s wedding…especially if you aren’t even sure if you will be in it. Tell the bride up front (if she askes you to be in the wedding) that there is a chance you may become preggnant and you need to know if that will be a problem for her. I don’t think a baby bump ruines photos, but that’s just IMO.
p.s. there will always be a reason NOT to do it…there will never be a “perfect” time.
Post # 9
Many people coming to our wedding are pregnant and I’ve only had 1 problem. One of my BM’s knew she was pregnant when she ordered her dress and tried to ‘guess’ what size she’d need because she didn’t want to tell anyone until she was 12 weeks. Well needless to say the dress isn’t fitting and we don’t think we will be able to get her one in time for our wedding. She feels terrible and it has caused a lot of stress but there is nothing we can do other then keep looking and hoping. So if you are in the wedding party let them know and I’m sure the bride will keep it a secret for you. lol. Other then that I’ve loved sharing my wedding moments with all the little ones growing around me. Weddings are about celebrating love and family at the end of the day.
It wouldn’t matter if you were 21 or 30. If you want to have a little one and are in a position in your life where it is possible- go for it and enjoy every moment.
Post # 10
Thank you Bees for you wonderful advice! You are all right, I can’t and shouldn’t put my life in hold for somebody else. If I am asked to be in the wedding then we’ll just have to work aground my baby bump because it will be there (hopefully.) lol.
Post # 11
You can’t put your life on hold for someone elses :p and your friends would be silly to think you should!
Post # 12
@MrsHoneyC: Holy moly!! Can you give me more info on that awesome bouquet she’s carrying?
Post # 14
@MexiPino: haha sure can. I made them myself, they are make of felt / crystals / buttons
Post # 15
@MrsHoneyC: Those are AWESOME!
Post # 16
Sorry OP for the thread jacking, if anyone wants to see a close up of them you can find their original thread here….