(Closed) To use or not to use? – Shower gifts before the wedding.

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: To use or not to use? - Shower gifts before the wedding.
    Yes- We started using them the second we brought them home! : (24 votes)
    65 %
    No- We waited until after the wedding. : (10 votes)
    27 %
    Other- please explain below. : (3 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    1128 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We used ours right away! We lived in a small one bedroom apartment, our shower was in August and our wedding was in November. There was no way I was going to stare at a living room full of gifts for that long! I am an organized freak and had to put it all away 🙂

    Post # 4
    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Well, I haven’t received any gifts yet, but if I get a KitchenAid mixer before my wedding, you’d better believe I’m using it!

    Post # 5
    2697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    The reasoning is that you aren’t supossed to because there is always a chance the wedding will be called off and you would need to return the gifts.

    We told people this and they either rolled their eyes or laughed and said that they wouldn’t want theirs back. I think they know that with us–9 years together–there is no chance of that happening!

    We’ve used a couple small items, but most are too big for the kitchen!


    Post # 7
    3121 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’m using some and not others.  I’m using stand-alone items (crock-pot, glasses) but not things that come in sets (every day, flatware, china). 

    Post # 8
    750 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My mom got me the KitchenAid off of my registry a month before my shower and 5 months before the wedding because she found a sale. You’d better believe that I had a bitchin batch of buttercream icing going in that sucker the night it got delivered haha

    Post # 9
    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    My shower was last weekend, and the gifts are on top of the kitchen cabinets. FI’s lease ends the month we get married, so I’m waiting for him to move in before I start using anything. 

    Post # 10
    2067 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We didn’t live together until we were married… That probably helped us to wait to use them 🙂

    Post # 11
    11172 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    We have started using some of our shower gifts like new knives and silverware but for some of the other larger items we are waiting until we have time to go through and really put them away, meaning getting rid of the old stuff.

    It has always been my opinion that if you have sent a thank you for an item you can start using it.

    Post # 12
    1043 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Agree with PPs, while you’re supposed to open but NOT use the gifts until after the wedding, what’s the harm if you need the item?  (Like you’ve just moved and need to use the plates and silverware…)  I would never be offended, in fact I think I’d be flattered!

    (My two cents – just please send a “thank you” note when you get the gift.)

    Post # 13
    2616 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    i voted other… shower was beginging of april and i just let everything sit in the spare room at fiances apartment, we happened to find our dream home the day before the shower and put an offer on it that monday. we moved in two weeks later and have been using things since…

    Post # 14
    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I actually had a few guests tell me to use the wedding presents even, prior to the big day.  One told me “I’m not worried that you won’t get married.”

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