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  • poll: With this dress, would you wear...
    a veil : (35 votes)
    65 %
    a birdcage : (6 votes)
    11 %
    flowers : (11 votes)
    20 %
    nothing : (2 votes)
    4 %
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    cldaughe    September 14, 2012   St. Louis, MO

    I purchased the Allure 8634 gown in ivory (shown below). At the time I did not have the funds to purcahse a headpiece, so I decided not to try any on. Now, I have the dress and nothing to wear on my noggin. Although the dress is quite traditional, that is the only traditional element that I want to wear on my wedding day.

    Do I wear a veil, birdcage, flowers, tiara, nothing? The back of the dress is stunning and I do not want to hide it with a long veil. I've tried a couple birdcages and the netting is too large/poufy (not to mention they cost between 200-400 dollars).  I may like the idea of flowers, but I have no idea how I would wear my hair AND fear that flowers would not complete the look I am going for. To be honest, I am not entirely sure on my "look", I simply fell in love with the dress and had to have it. :)

    Our wedding will be September 14, 2012 at a garden center in central Indiana (Avon Gardens). The ceremony and reception are both at the center. 

    I've seen pictures of other brides who have worn a veil and I am just not crazy about what the veil represents and I truly resist the formality of it.

    If you have pictures of you in your headpiece I would certainly appreciate you sharing. Any recommendations or questions are appreciated.

    Keep buzzing along!

    To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana 8634 Back Allure

    To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana 8634 Front Allure

     
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    Mrs.GreenEyes    June 7, 2012   Indiana

    I have the EXACT same delima!! Lol..An i LOVE that dress!! I also am considering Avon Gardens(-: we must have similar taste!!.. I would suggest trying do figure out your "wedding style".. like vintage ..or fun and sassy..or woodsy whimsical..like garden nymph(really pretty unique style for garden wedding)....Idk..I'm still trying to figure this out myself!! Google image wedding hair and see what makes you think "I want my pictures to look like that!!"..that's what I do..ha(-: But agree on the veil..no thanks..BUT I like the flower idea..and the birdcage veil!! You can find then for cheap in some bridal shops(-; hope this helped!!

     
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    Mrs.H2B    August 4, 2012   Canada

    I would wear a simple flowy veil... you wouldn't want anything with too much detail..but the look of the dress is really romantic to me. It really depends on the look you're going for though.. if you want romantic and soft, a veil would do the trick, and a birdcage or flowers would make it more modern and fun. 

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    I love veils, I think it gives that final "bridal" touch.  When, ever in your life, are you ever going to have a chance to wear a beautiful veil for a day?

     
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    sheilad72    December 31, 2011   Boston, MA

    I you get a singll tier veil it won't completly hide the detailing of the bak of your dress.  With no embellishments you will still be able to see through it.  That is the route I took.  Chapel length single tier.  Plus you can take it off after the ceremony to expose the gorgeous detailing on the back of that stunning dress!

     
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    eryepye    March 27, 2010   Seattle, married in Portland

    I vote for a tulle birdcage.

     
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    pandaboo    March 10, 2012  

    I love veils.. you'll never get to one again :) I really think a veil makes the bride look

     
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    MrsNerdy    April 14, 2012   Austin wedding, live in Houston, TX

    try looking on etsy for birdcage veils, they are muchhhh more affordable than 200!  Plus they are very unique and pretty.  Personally I am making my own for about $10.  If you google birdcage veil tutorials, you'll see that they are really easy to do.  You can order the netting off amazon or ebay, or use tulle from a fabric store for that kind of look.

     
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    cldaughe    September 14, 2012   St. Louis, MO

    Thanks for the suggestions. Honestly, I think I am having a hard time of what style I want the wedding to be. The dress is quite romantic/traditional - much more so than I thought it was when I tried it on... I really don't see the "fun" element to the dress. I believe I may be suffering from dress remorse!

    Over thanksgiving holiday, I was a bad bride-to-be and went to a shop that has a discontinued Pronovias dress (that is much more curve-hugging) that I originally tried on and considered back on Labor Day. I opted not to get that dress because the owner of the shop did not have a price listed and she was out of town. So, I left there without the dress and found the one pictured above.

    Don't get me wrong, I love my dress! Over thanksgiving holiday, after I went to the shop and tried on the dress-that-shall-not-be-named, I went to my grandmother's house and put MY dress on. It is simply stunning, beautiful, but I wish there was something a bit more sexy about it.

    I feel this may be why I am struggling with a veil. I am not a traditionalist, I am not a fan of the veil for that very reason. I do not feel there is anything sexy about a veil. If anything, it would make me feel less like myself and more of what is expected.

    I am still on the search for a headpiece, but maybe I jumped the gun with purchasing my dress and not waiting to purchase the discontinued pronovias one? Thoughts?

     To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana Pronovias Mahon Zoom

    To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana Pronovias Mahon Front

    To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana Pronovias Mahon Back

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    @cldaughe: Oh but your dress is very very sexy.  The open back, peaking cleavage, and the way it curves around the hips, yup, that is pure sexy. I love your dress FAR more than the other dress, FAR more.

     
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    KarenA    August 4, 2012  

    I like the flower idea since your wedding is in a garden setting anyway. I also hate veils but I bought one (salesgirl was pushy.. she talked me into it even tho I told her I don't want one so now I need to sell it.. PM me if you're interested) but I think a nice, smaller flower (smaller than the one in the second set of pics) or a couple small flowers would look really nice and fit with your venue. 

     
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    cldaughe    September 14, 2012   St. Louis, MO

    @tksjewelry: oh thank you for the compliment. Laughing

     
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    Ivorybuttons    September 22, 2012   Canada

    I agree completely with tksjewelry, your dress is plenty sexy.

     

    I have a similar Allure dress (8825), and I don't want to have dress hidden by a veil either.  I'll be making a headpeice like these:

    To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana Il 570xN.256634740.jpg

     

    To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana White Lace Bridal Headband Hair Accessories 34079 View0

    With a wide band of alencon lace instead of tulle to give the illusion of "veil" without being a veil, and a large ivory flower (most likely a peony or rose).

     
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    quishi    March 17, 2012   Guaynabo, Puerto Rico

    This is a very feminine and romantic dress. I think some soft gathered curls and flowers would look nice. This is pretty much what I'm doing:

    To veil or not to veil? :  wedding veil headpiece allure allure 8634 non traditional garden ceremony garden outdoor indiana Untitled

     
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    ShennaB2b    May 19, 2012   Dover, DE

    I have the allure 8853, which is very similiar. I opted for no veil because I didn't want it to cover the keyhole back on my dress and I am not into the whole formality/tradition of it. I am getting a flower made, probably from ETSY, that matches the "sash" on my dress. You could do something in a similiar style, using the decoration on your dress. It can be a simple clip that be strategicaly placed in your hair by your stylist. IMO, which is a little bias because I love lace and your dress in beautiful, but I think the Allure suits your location better- kind of vintage garden romance.

     
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    cldaughe    September 14, 2012   St. Louis, MO

    @Mrs.GreenEyes:  Just curious if you decided on your venue yet? I know you were considering Avon Gardens and, if you decided to go with them, I'd love to talk it up about how your planning is coming along. :)

     
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    cldaughe    September 14, 2012   St. Louis, MO

    @ShennaB2b:  I went to a bridal shop today and they this really cool headpiece that sticks in your hair (full of crystals) but had this tail piece that was bendable for you to wrap under a chignon... from what I can tell, online they are called hair vines.

     

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