(Closed) To veil or not to veil

posted 6 years ago in Encore
  • poll: are you wearing a veil?
    yes : (46 votes)
    74 %
    no : (16 votes)
    26 %
  • Post # 3
    934 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @The Torpedo Factory:  Originally I wasn’t going to wear a veil. But after thinking about it I realized that there are few times in my life where I will be able to wear a veil. So I’m wearing one for the ceremony and then taking it off for the reception and adding a fascinator. Best of both worlds!

    Post # 4
    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I think if the veil completes or works with everything else, I would wear a veil.  I’m not wearing a veil because my dress comes with a bolero with a popped collar and it just looks like way too much with a veil; instead I’m going with a simple flower in my hair. 

    Post # 5
    7904 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    I say wear one if you want to wear one and it is appropriate to your venue and your dress. The whole veils are for virgins thing seems traditonal, but is really a figment of the modern imagination. At all Roman marriages, for instance, the women were veiled, and Tertullian (a church father) advised that all virgins and other unmarried women (widows, for example) who were not shamed (so not prositutes) should be veiled all the time, not just their wedding day.

    Do what you want. I think veils are annoying, personally. I wore when for my first wedding and definitely didn’t want to repeat that.

    Post # 6
    643 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I’m not voting for either yes or no because I think you should do what you want. There is nothing wrong with wearing one and nothing wrong with foregoing one. 

    I’m a first-time bride and I don’t want to wear a veil. You’re an encore bride and if you want to wear one then you should. 

    Choose to wear a veil or to not wear a veil based on its own merits, not because of whether or not you had a previous marriage.

    Post # 7
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Hi Bees, I was totally against myself wearing a veil…even before I met my Fiance, my thoughts were “Nope, been there, done that…I’ll be too old…that’s for brides who get married in a church and I won’t be doing that…” etc, etc.  When I did become engaged, went to bridal shop and said I would do a birgcage veil at the most, but more likely a ring of flowers at my head, or a really nice, antique hair comb.  But then consultant said “Are you totally against a veil?” So, reluctantly tried it on…and that was it.  Most beautiful veil I’ve ever seen, completely perfect with my dress, the feel of our wedding, beautiful color against my hair (I’m a redhead and it’s ivory with exquisite antique beading around the scalloped edge).  If you don’t want one, obviously don’t have one, but being an encore bride shouldn’t be one of the reasons.  

    Post # 8
    415 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I wasn’t going to but tried one on and it was amazing!  So glad I did, I think they look amazing in pics.

    Post # 9
    14 posts
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I agree. Do what you want to do, not what “tradition” says!

    I had a veil the first time and am not interested in having one this time around BUT… I tried one on in the store and I kinda liked it. I’m just really opposed to having it over my face (too virginal for me)… Is it stupid to just have it in the back, under my bun, and not in the front over my face? (like her ^^) but during the ceremony I mean.

    Post # 10
    1271 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    i’m wearing a veil.  the first time i got married i wore a waltz length mantilla that i made…it’s gorgeous.  i still have it.  anyway, i’m not going with anything nearly that dramatic this time around (even though my dress is far more dramatic than my first one).  i have a yard of vintage veiling (and now i can’t remember if it’s 12″ or 18″ wide, and i have it packed up somewhere…i think it’s 12″) in steel grey with a bit of a fancy pattern to the lattice.  i’ll either wear a small fascinator and make it into a birdcage to just wear for the ceremony *OR* make a small fascinator hat (on a round or teardrop base) and attach the veil to that…haven’t decided yet, still playing around with ideas.

    Post # 11
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    yep you bet I am. 🙂

    Post # 12
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Being an encore bride, I’m actually considering it. But some that I’ve tried on was a bit out of my price range so I asked my mom if she could make me one (she’s a seamstress as a hobby), and she chuckled — implying that since its not my first, I shouldn’t be wearing one… NICE huh?

    anyways, i’m still planning on wearing one –because I think it will look good with my dress, and i’ve seen some awesome shots of other brides w/ their nice long veil.  As far as my mom’s offensive reaction to  my request? Thats a whole ‘nother thread on its own!

    Post # 13
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I’m still undecided, but am actually leaning towards wearing one.   My initial thought was absolutely not, but as our plans have evolved and we will be getting married in a very old church, I’m starting to lean the other way. 

    Post # 14
    38 posts
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I thought initially I would wear just a birdcage veil.  Now I’m in love with very sheer chapel  length veils and how they will blow in the wind on the beach (we’re getting married in Jamaica).  I’m not certain but thinking I may combine a long illusion veil with a birdcage veil with flower fascinator.  I saw it on one bride and surprisingly it looked super classy and not overdone.

    I think if I didn’t wear a veil I wouldn’t feel officially bride-like.  It doesn’t bother me that I was married before.  Our love feels pure and right.  I have no qualms about wearing a veil this time around.  There is a certain mystique to being behind a veil on your wedding day that I don’t want to miss out on.


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