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To Veil or Not To Veil at the Reception?

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    Shelbystar    2/28/09   Tucson, Arizona

    With my impending nuptials around the corner on February 28th, I find myself thinking about all those little details that no one cares about except the bride. My most recent one is concerning my beautiful veil. I got engaged December 24, 2007. By January 24, 2008, I made my first wedding purchase when I fell in love with a veil. Not just ANY veil. THE veil. It is a multi-layered elbow-length (though a lil longer than the elbows) kind of veil. It has a hand-stiched delicate floral vine motif near the bottom and then little swarovski crystals hanging off the very tip. It was expensive and I paid too much for it and I didn't care. I knew I would regret not getting it and since it was one-of-a-kind, I would have really kicked myself if I came back to the bridal boutique and it was gone. I literally matched my DRESS to my VEIL...not the other way around.

    ANYWAY....fast forward almost a year later and I have my hair trial next weekend. The veil and the dainty little crystal headband/tiara I bought will be going to the hair trial too. My mom asked me if I would be taking the veil off for the reception and my initial reaction was "Um....HELL NO." But then after thinking about it...well, don't most people take off the veil between the ceremony and reception? (Just to clarify, our wedding festivities are taking place at a hotel resort. The reception is immediately after our ceremony). From all the blogs I have read on a Weddingbee, a large number of brides here do some kind of dramatic veil or hair switch inbetween the ceremony and reception. Should I take off my veil and favor a small sparkly hair-pin or something? Is there some kind of veil ettiquette that says you have to go veil-less at the reception? Is it just not the trend right now to keep it on the whole day? What are you doing at your wedding?

     

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    I had a cathedral veil, so after our first dance I took it off.  It wasn't meant to be a dramatic change, it was just because I was tired of carrying it everywhere, lol.

    If you like your veil, with that length if you want you can wear it all night if that's what you would like to do.

     
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    MightySapphire      

    I have a cathedral veil as well, and I can't imagine wearing it to the reception withuot someone stepping on it and ripping it!  But you have an elbow length (smart!) so I think you'll be fine.  Wear it all night!  I've seen some photos of brides at receptions with veils on.  To Veil or Not To Veil at the Reception? :  wedding veil reception dilemma Icon Biggrin

     
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    ES123    April 25, 2009   Laurel, MD

    I never thought I would wear a veil; a bought a vintage brooch that had been turned into a hair comb and loved it so much I thought I would wear it for both ceremony and reception. But those crafty ladies at the bridal salon showed me what ended up being the perfect veil...so I had to get it. Then they added the perfect mini-tiara to it...and I had to have that, too (despite saying I would HATE a tiara). So, I'll wear the veil and the tiara for the ceremony and the hair comb for the reception.

     
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    ktdid23    November 7, 2008   Annapolis, MD

    I am still in love with my veil - and I got married 3 months ago!!  I wore mine all night.  If you want to keep it on, keep it on... if, halfway through the night, you feel like you want to take it off, then take it off.  It's up to you! 

     
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    MrsCPT    08-08-09   Texas

    I am doing both a dress and veil change for my reception.  I can't imagine keeping up with my cathedral length veil the entire reception.  But, with your veil length, especially given how much you love it, I would definitely keep it on as long as I could.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    I think its completely your choice, and you actually have a good size veil to keep on all night if you so choose. I personally am going to take mine off before the reception. I wasn't even going to wear a veil, but its my moms and I know how much it'll mean to her so I have no problem wearing it for the ceremony.

     
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    MarriedinMay      

    I wore my veil all night long...all night, all night (channeling Lionel Richie). My reasoning was there is really only one time in your entire life that you can wear a veil and when it's over, it's over. Wear that thing like you mean it...for the whole wedding!

     
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    Shelbystar    2/28/09   Tucson, Arizona

    Wow. For the ladies who wore cathedral veils....yeah, kind of smart NOT to wear that one all night. Thanks for the great advice. I think I will probably leave it on at the reception. And MarriedinMay: now I have that song in my head! =)

     
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    evelinej    September 2008   Oakland, CA

    I had 2 layer chapel veil.  The top layer was short (elbow length) and as much as I would have loved to wear it all night, it wouldn't have been a good idea. But, I really wanted to wear a veil and I didn't want to get another one so I asked the seamstress to make the bottom layer detachable.  It worked out perfectly.   

     
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    suzanno    7/12/08   Richland, WA

    I wore my elbow-length veil all evening.  It sounds like yours is similar to mine, which was a champagne colored net, with gold stitching on the edge, and crystals sewn in two staggered rows near the bottom.  I love it lots and lots, and there was no question but that I was going to wear it as long as possible.

    One word of warning - everybody comes up at the reception and puts their arm around you.  There is a certain amount of hugging, but since the photographer is skulking around, people seem to realize that they shouldn't block the shots of the bride.  That arm-around-the-shoulders position results in a lot of tugging on the veil!  It took me a few uncomfortable moments to realize that I should duck my chin when the arm came up, so that when I raised my head back to normal I would have some slack in the veil.

     

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