- 8 years ago
Wondering if you could offer some advice for my situation…
I’m 24 years old my boyfriend is 25. We have been dating for over 3 years. The first two years of our relationship was long distance but now we live in the same city and are able to see each other more often. I am planning on going to business school in the fall of 2012 – most likely out of state and far from where we are now. If my boyfriend has not proposed by that time, I will break up with him as I don’t want to have another long distance relationship. Long distance again is not something I am considering.
My question is – how long should I wait before breaking up if he does not propose? Waiting 2.5 years until I am at the brink of leaving for school seems dumb. I know we are relatively young now (and I can tell he doesn’t want to get engaged in the near near future) but how long is too long to wait if I already have a self-imposed deadline? I think he has gotten comfortable with me being close and available to him and he has admitted he hasn’t thought much about the future in terms of timelines. We talked this weekend about ‘the future’ and he knows about my future plans and that I don’t want to be in the dating stage forever. At the same time he seems like he is in no hurry….
How long should I wait?
I read Mr. Bee’s plan and I agree with it whole heartedly. I have been implementing the second stage for about a week now and I will continue to do the plan from now on.