Post # 1
So first off, I thought about going undercover, but quite frankly, I’m not really all that embarrased by it, and I would forget the other name and then end up responding under my name anyway..so yeah. 🙂
So, the SO says that I get ‘to wet’ when we have sex. It’s not always, but he says it gets so bad that he can’t feel anything. (How much of that is natural lube vs having had 2 babies I don’t know) Anyway, I’ve never had anyone complain about this before, but apparently it’s bad enough that he actually googled it! (I about died)
So now, I’m really self-conscious about it, and other than thinking of icky things (which sort of kills my enjoyment), and stopping to use a towel to help out, does anyone have any suggestions?
Post # 3
Could you get SO to clarify whether it’s a wetness or tightness thing? If you think it’s a tightness thing from having kids then you probably just need to do some kegels. I really don’t know what to do if it’s wetness, short of towelling off a bit.
Post # 4
He says it’s a wetness thing. I generally do kegels while we are in the moment just to help with that (plus, it’s fun to watch his eye bug out when I do it suddenly.)
Post # 5
@aithinne: K since this is a TMI post, I’m assuming you’re ready to get some TMI answers. I get really wet when I have sex with my husband, but he loves it because he can tell I’m really turned on. However, my husband is somewhat well endowed and I’ve never had kids, so I’m not sure if that may have something to do with it. I would probably think that bunnymama’s suggestion of kegels might help if it’s a size/tightness issue. Otherwise, I don’t see why taking a quick break to towel off wouldn’t work.
Post # 6
Have a towel on the night stand. 🙂 Every so often I feel like we don’t have enough friction, so we just pause for a moment and wipe us both down quickly. It takes only 10 seconds, and it usually feels much better for both of us for a long time afterward. If you’re having a longer session, just take another towel break.
Post # 7
@aithinne: way TMI too but this happens to me too. Sometimes the solution that DH comes up with is to go down on me for a little while and then i return the favor. which usually (i cringe writing this) “dries me out a little” hahaha it usually works and adds something different our normal sexuals 😉
Post # 8
@housebee: See, that’s my take on it!
I’m all well and good with TMI answers. 🙂 I’ve had 2 children, after what I went through, I don’t have a modest bone in my body anymore.
Post # 9
I have this problem too ! It’s so embarrassing for me and yes I’ve googled it too! The weird thibg is that he can just be touching my skin or giving me neck rub and it starts. necer hsd this issue w other guys so i guess there is something to be said about pheremones !
Unfortunately there isn’t much you can do to prevent it ( sometimes taking benadryl has ‘dried me up ‘ ) but that was coincidental since I took it for allergies. What PP mentioned about friction seems to be the issue with being overly wet.
My DH says he isn’t concerned or bothered by it when I ask (as I said I get so embarrassed) if its really bad I just wipe myself really quick and it helps. Sometimes if I orgasm quickly it ‘dried’ me up so on days when it’s really bad I get him to take care of me early so thst the session is better for him .