Post # 1
I always see a lot of threads with all sorts of very specific questions about how someone’s decisions make him/her look or what other people will think about something. It got me thinking, because DH sometimes says I care too much what other people think–for example, I get embarrassed if he blasts silly music really loud with the windows down or I’m always nervous about being over- or underdressed for an event.
DH has more of an attitude of “Who cares what anyone else thinks?” but I can’t help it sometimes! Where do you think you fall on the spectrum? How much do you care what other people think of you and your decisions? Do you tend to care more in certain situations?
Post # 3
I care a lot about what others think about me but tbh it causes major problems because I think things like I’m really ugly so why bother wearing make-up, people will only think “who is she trying to kid”. Most of it is more negative thoughts in my own head than people’s actual reactions
Post # 4
I have to admit…I worry waaaay too much about what others might think.
All the time…
Post # 5
I probably care too much. I used to have a very laid-back, “who cares” attitude, but as I’ve gotten older I feel like I’m more uptight. I guess it has to do with pressures from society or whatever, but sometimes I do wish I cared less.
Post # 6
I really don’t care that much. I know that some people don’t like me because I voice my opinion and won’t back down, I swear like a sailor, and I can’t hide my feelings easily (so if I’m annoyed/pissed off/sad, you will know it!), but it honestly doesn’t really bother me.
I stopped caring what other people think about me in high school, when I was judged solely on my outward appearance. Once I realized that people will judge you no matter what, i quit caring. Its pretty freeing, actually
Post # 7
I have no shame. hahaha. I care to the extent that I will not make an ass out of my self in pubic but as for how i dress, how my hair looks , what my music tastes are, how i dance…. Fuck it. It’s never gonna be good enough for anybody elce and as long as I and my FI are happy everyone elce can go pound salt.
Post # 8
As I get older I care less what people think.
Post # 9
I really admire those who don’t care much–I wish I was more like that. To be totally honest, when this thread took 15 minutes to get any responses, my first thought was…do people think this is a stupid idea for a thread? 🙂
Post # 10
I care about people and take the feelings of those I love into consideration when making decisions. However, for the most part, Nope. I care more about what I think than what anyone else thinks. I agree with your DH on that one.
Post # 11
I don’t care at all what people think of me and my SO and mom think that’s a horrible attitude. Really? Sorry I live my life for myself and to make me happy! My mom told me I should’t live my life that way. Huh? Who wants to live their life worried about what other people will think? Surely not me!
Post # 12
@SpartyGirl: I feel the same way!! I imagine it must be tiring wondering what others are thinking. As long as me and my hubs are happy, I’m good!
Post # 13
@imalittlebirdie: I’m the same. I won’t purposefully make an ass of myself but in general, I really don’t care what people think because I’m happy. Their opinions don’t change that.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I don’t really care. I want people to think that I have good manners and I want people to see me as a good person, but I’m not constantly thinking about what other people will think about what I’m doing or wearing.
Post # 15
@MM423: I’ve narrowed it down to caring what about 4-5 people think. That’s it, I don’t worry about the others. Let them worry about what i think about them if they want to spend time thinking about me.
Post # 16
@sugarpea: I think that’s more of what it is for me, too–I don’t want to be offensive or inappropriate, or to hurt people’s feelings.
On the other hand, I can be shy in some situations, so I have a natural tendency to get kind of nervous about things like making a scene or showing up way-underdressed…I suppose it’s more that I don’t want to draw a lot of attention than caring what people actually think of me. It’s gotten better as I have gotten older, but I definitely think it is something I could work on.