Post # 1
Any of you brides doing a toast or having your FI do a toast at the reception? Anyone skipping it and just letting the best man, maid of honor and maybe a father of the couple to the toasts? FI was wondering if he should give some sort of thank you toast.
Post # 3
We are just letting FIL do one.
Post # 4
Not a May bride but we having FOB do a “welcome” toast (when we get to reception/prior to starting dinner), BM and MOH each say a quick (two minutes tops) toast after dinner, then FI will just say a quick thanks/we appreciate you joinging us type of thing (again 1-2minutes tops) after we cut the cake/start the dancing. Hope that is not too much talking ha ha!
Post # 5
We didn’t do toasts per se, but at the rehearsal dinner I did a thank you and at the wedding my husband did a thank you. Really just like 2 min thing.
Post # 6
We’re doing a quick thank you toast right before we cut the cake (MOH and Best Man are doing toasts before dinner)
Post # 7
I will not be speaking at the reception. I know I will be so full of emotion and wont be able to say anything coherent. I’m not sure if FI wants to give a toast but I doubt it
Post # 8
DH did a welcome toast right after we were introduced prior to our first dance. He ended his speech with, “Now if you wouldn’t mind I would like a private moment alone with my wife” and we had our first dance…aww sniff sniff
Post # 9
ok, yeah i was thinking of doing one at the rehearsal, well my FI will. But I will leave the it up to the bridal party and father of the groom to thank everyone and us. 🙂
Post # 10
Normally the groom responds to the toast to the bride (or the bride and the groom), made by a good friend, a family member or the best man.
His response sometimes includes a toast to the bridesmaids to which the best man responds.
Post # 11
We’re definitely going to say something, but probably very briefly. Our toasts are being given by the MOH, Best Man, FOG and FOB (all will be short except perhaps my dad’s). Then we will stand up and say thank you to everyone, etc, but it will probably be under a minute. And my FI hates public speaking, plus I know more of the guests, so I will probably make that speech.
ETA – I know that I have a lot of speeches planned, but I’m looking forward to the toasts so much, and I figure while everyone’s sitting down and drinking, they can deal with 15 minutes of toasts to the bride and groom.
Post # 12
I think its nice to do a thank you toast to show your appreciation to your guests for comming, your bridal party, and people working the event.
Post # 13
I’m not a May bride, but my FMIL is planning on throwing us the reception so I think she will be the one to give the thank you toast. We may or may not chip in to that, but we’ll probably just go around to each table to personally thank everyone for coming and make conversation.
Post # 14
@2bMrsG: We will def make our way around the tables as well. Think its a great alternative to giving the 2 min toast, plus we have a smaller wedding of 120 so getting to 12-14 tables throughout the night wont be too bad. i hope lol.
Post # 15
@jck2011: At our wedding, we had the best man, MOH, and dad speak. My dad lead prayer before dinner. We greeted everyone at the tables after dinner which gave us more time for intimate conversation with our guests beyond the receiving line earlier in the day.
At the rehearsal dinner, we wanted both of the dads to speak, but my FIL was too shy. Then, it turned into a speech fest. My brother gave a speech about us, then my dad said something nice, and then my MIL gave a little speech. We cut my BIL from saying anything.
Personally, I’m not fond of when the bride and groom give speeches at the wedding. It just seems a little unnecessary and self serving. By the time of the reception, it’s really about the guests and sharing the day with the guests. You don’t need the bride and groom waxing on about how awesome they think that they are.
Post # 16
My FI is doing it. I might say something with him, but I will be so emotional, I’m not sure I could do it! He’s just going to thank everyone for coming and celebrating with us. He’s going to speak at the end of the meal, during dessert. I think it’s a nice thing to do.
@brox: Not sure why you would say it’s self-serving to thank guests for coming?