Post # 1
Who’s giving a toast at your wedding? At ours, just the best man and maid of honor are both giving toasts. I don’t think the fathers or anyone else will. I was wondering if it is bad form for us not to toast our guests in return. I’ve only been to a couple weddings, and the bride and groom didn’t give toasts at those, but I was wondering what’s usual.
Post # 3
I have never seen the bride or groom toast the guests…sometimes they will get up and thank everyone for coming when its like a DJ intermission or something….but never at toast.
Post # 4
Thanks! That makes me feel better.
Another question…we don’t drink when people toast us, right? So what exactly do we DO with the fancy toasting flutes?
Post # 5
We’re having best man, MOH and my dad. I have seen the groom say a few words. I think unless you’re really worried about what everyone’s doing you can do whatever you want. I definitely wouldn’t think anyone would think you’re rude for not saying anything. Many people thank their guests in their program. We wrote a really heart-felt thanks for our ceremony program.
Post # 6
Are there going to be speeches at your reception? It is definitely appropriate for you or your FI to thank all of your guests for joining you, whether you specifically lead a toast to that effect or not.
Post # 7
i haven’t seen many bride and grooms make a toast, or make any speeches of any kind. we’re going to have our best man, and moh if she wants to.
Post # 8
I’ve never seen a bride and groom give a toast. We aren’t going to do it. I’m certainly not saying anything because I don’t do public speaking – family and friends or not, its’ not happening. We’ll most likely just do best man, moh, and parents if they want to.
Post # 9
When you are being toasted you just get to sit there and look pretty 🙂
I guess you use the toasting flutes to toast each other if you do a toast to one another or to toast your guests!
Post # 10
My understanding is that it’s definitely not required. I’ve never seen toasting done in person and I don’t know anyone else who has seen it done either. From what I have read in the etiquette books, it’s not a breach of etiquette at all to skip it. Whomever wants to toast can do so.
Keep in mind though that a large number of people actually don’t like champagne and countless bottles of it (not to mention $$$ since it isn’t cheap) go to waste. Let your guests toast with whatever they are already drinking.