Toasts uneven?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

5 groomsman giving toasts is way too many in my opinion. They will go on too long, look odd, and im sure it will turn into a roast of ur FI. 

If the groomsman are that excited, welcome the toasts at your rehearsal dinner. Traditionally the only bridal party toasts are from the BM and MOH. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

As a guest, I think 7 toasts is waaaaaay too many. Stick with just people who want to make toasts, and have them toast both of you. And drop everyone else. try to keep the toasting list as short as possible. Or if you want 2 people to toast you and two for your groom, see if there’s someone outside of the bridal party who would be excited to do it. The only thing worse than a boring, uninterested, un-excited speech-giver is a whole parade of them, and if you have 7 speeches then no matter how great the speakers are, the guests get bored.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: Davis Island Garden Club

How about having your parents do toasts? Or a close family member outside of the bridal party. Or just skip the toasts, none of your guests will miss it. Or you and your hubby can do a toast to eachother, your bridal party, your family and friends, etc. 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I suggest you find one person who wants to do the toast to the groom and one the toast to  the bride.  Those people do not have to be in the wedding party. I have been to many weddings where the toast to the bride was done by a long time friend of the family.

You, as a a couple, can then respond with a toast to the wedding party and your parents.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

missadventure85:  Yeah generally at a wedding you toast THE COUPLE not an individual person in the couple. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

missadventure85:  You definitely do not want 4 toasts from the groomsman all giving toasts! I don’t know what the norm in the States is, if that is where you are from, but typically it’s the father of the bride, maybe the father of the groom, the best man, maybe the MOH and the groom toasting. Sometimes a bride will want to speak too. I love speeches at weddings but if you have heaps then guests are likely to get rather bored. My sister had 2 bridesmaids, a best man, both her and husband plus our father speak and it went for over 45 minutes and people were over it by the end.

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