(Closed) Today I snapped.

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1353 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Ehh, unless you were really yelling, or swearing at him, then I wouldn’t worry about it honestly. He WAS being inconsiderate, pointing that out doesn’t make you mean.

Have you told your FI that his friend bothers you? Maybe you could skip the get together, or take a mutual friend if you have one, so you have someone to talk to?

Post # 4
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734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Oh gosh, I know how you feel. A few weeks ago FI and I got to our car and there was a cart someone left in the parking lot right next to it. I wasn’t mad that it was blocking the door, I was in a bad mood and just not tolerating people being rude by leaving their carts out. Then I see that there is a lady in her car next to us and she was the one who left the cart. I looked at her and said, “the NERVE of some people!” and put her cart away. I felt bad afterward that I did it. That’s not like me.

So I get what you are feeling. I definitely don’t think that you should normally do things like this to people (obviously), but mostly for your own safety. You never know how angry the other person will get with you. You shouldn’t yell at people, of course, but at the same time I don’t think its wrong to tell people when they are being inconsiderate. Some people are inconsiderate and just don’t care, but I do know quite a few people who are inconsiderate because they just don’t know better (they started doing it because somebody else did and have made a habit of not thinking about how it might affect other people). I’m sure there are things I have done where it didn’t cross my mind that it could be bothersome to someone else.

Post # 5
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122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@smileyme:  Nahhh, just go on about your business. Everyone’s entitled to have a hissy fit now and then. Hey, at least it was some stranger on the receiving end…and not your FI. 

Post # 6
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1240 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@smileyme:  well maybe if you see him again you could say sorry I was having a bad day and shouldnt have snapped and leave it at that.  Thats what I would do but i alway suffer from guilt if I do things like that and feel bad if I over react.  🙂 (which is easy to do when you are having a bad day).

Post # 7
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691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If it was another man who had said that to him it would have been a non issue, but when we do it we’re so ashamed/afraid of being a “bitch” and feel the need to apologize. He can find another place to wash his car!

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