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Today is Loving Day! What does it mean to you?

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    august15bride    August 15, 2009   St. Petersburg, FL

    <div id="squeeze"><h1 class="title">The Loving Story</h1><div id="node-284" class="node ntype-detail"><span class="submitted">Posted May 1st, 2009 by lovingday From: http://www.lovingday.org/the-loving-story <div class="content">

    The Wedding

    Loving v. Virginia was an important Supreme Court case, but it was also the story of a real couple. Mildred Jeter and Richard Loving grew up in Caroline County, Virginia. They fell in love and decided to get married. Unfortunately, getting married was not as simple in 1958 as it was today. Mildred was black and Richard was white. There were laws that forbade people of different races to marry each other. This was true in many states, including Mildred and Richard's home state of Virginia. However, interracial marriage was legal in Washington, DC at that time. Therefore, they decided to drive to DC, get married, and return to Virginia to begin their life together.

    This proved to be a short term solution. The law in Virginia not only forbade interracial marriage ceremonies, but it also forbade interracial couples from getting married elsewhere and returning to Virginia. One night, while they were asleep, the newly-married Lovings were awakened by the police in their bedroom. The Lovings were taken to jail for the crime of being married.

    The Trial

    When they went to trial, the judge found them guilty and sentenced them to a jail term of one to three years. However, the judge told the Lovings that he would suspend the sentence if they agreed to leave Virginia for a period of twenty five years. Given the choice between imprisonment and banishment, they chose banishment. The Lovings moved to Washington, DC.

    The Legal Battle

    The Lovings were able to live together legally in Washington, but they did not have an easy time. They faced discrimination everywhere. They were not able to rent property in most parts of the city, and they were often the target of racist taunting. Also, they were facing the emotional hardship of separation from their families. Life was both difficult and unpleasant for the Lovings in Washington. They were having difficulty supporting their children. In desperation, Mildred sent a letter to Robert F. Kennedy, Attorney General of the United States.

    Mildred's letter was forwarded from the Attorney General's office to the offices of the ACLU (American Civil Liberties Union) in New York. They took interest in the Loving's case and helped them find an attorney. Two lawyers, Bernard S. Cohen and Philip J. Hirschkop, also felt that the Lovings were entitled to be married and to live in the state of their choice. They agreed to work on the Loving's case for free.

    Their case went through many levels of the justice system and their appeal was denied every time. Eventually their case appeared before the United States Supreme Court. The Court decided unanimously in their favor. Finally, after nine years of struggle, the Loving won the right to live together as husband and wife in their home state. In the words of Chief Justice Earl Warren, "Under our Constitution, the freedom to marry, or not marry, a person of another race resides within the individual and cannot be infringed on by the State."

    The Victory

    The Loving's case not only won them their freedom to love, but it also granted the same freedom to every interracial couple in every state in America. At the time of the Loving decision, sixteen states from Delaware to Texas had laws banning interracial couples. Loving v. Virginia (1967) made it illegal for these states to enforce those laws. This ended a long era of laws that were enforced in forty-two states over the course of American history. These laws did not only apply to black people and white people; many states also restricted relationships with Asians, Native Americans, Indians, Hispanics, and other ethnic groups.

    The freedom to love is something most of us take for granted. Like many other freedoms, the right for interracial couples to be together was fought for and won as a part of our civil rights. Many people see this as the longest-lasting part of the legal segregation that used to rule our nation. The Lovings, like Rosa Parks, played an important role in freeing us from laws that punished people for no other reason than the color of their skin.

     
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    august15bride    August 15, 2009   St. Petersburg, FL

    Because of this case, my fiance and I are free to marry (he is black, I am white). So today is a very important day for us!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Aw! For me, this means that my grandma (Korean) was able to marry my Grandpa (he's white, german maybe? Don't know b/c he was an orphan)....which means Here I am!

    I'm also 1/4 korean which isn't much of a big deal in most places, but in some redneck locations (like when I was in Branson or Arkansas! Boo) people ask me "what" I am in a strange way. They know i'm not 100% caucasian, but they can't really pinpoint me either. 

     
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    missrain    January 2, 2010   Austin

    Wow! I love that the surname was, appropriately, "Loving"!

    My family is pretty diverse: Korean, Native American, African American, Hispanic, and Caucasian (irish, english, etc). It's crazy to think that it wasn't very long ago that the law would have prevented half the marriages that make my family what it is today!

     
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    DaisyBride    June 1, 2009  

    FH is Jewish and I'm Chrisitan.  I don't know if interfaith marriage was ever illegal here but I am happy that it is more accepted now than it used to be.

    It seems so crazy to us now that marrying someone of a different race was illegal, I can't help but wonder if thats how our grandkids will feel about same-sex marriage in 50 years!

     
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    rasgoola    7/18/09   Boston

    Thank you so much for posting this! I take my ability to marry my FI for granted sometimes, but without this case a wedding between an Indian girl and an Irish/German boy would not be taking place!

     

     
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    mechiebaby    June 4, 2010   Malaysia / Washington DC

    Aw thanks for posting this!

     I hope one day, we will look back on a court case like this, but for gay marriages, and wonder why it took us so long (I realize not everyone may agree, but I think prejudice is prejudice...)

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Agreed! Prejudice is prejudice, I like that.

     
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    mechiebaby    June 4, 2010   Malaysia / Washington DC

    DasiyBride we must have been posting at the same time!  My boy and I would be interracial and interfaith.. a Hindu Malaysian-Indian + Christian mixed-up-white girl :)

     
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    DaisyBride    June 1, 2009  

    mechiebaby, haha yes, I guess we were.  Great minds think alike :)

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    It means that fiance's family could exist (Vietnamese and black cousins), and it hopefully sets a precedent to pave the way for gay marriage to be legal throughout the US, not just Mass, NH, CT, VT, and 18,000 couples in California.

     
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    yogigal    June 27, 2009   Chicago (married in Philly)

    Thanks for posting!!  My FI and I went to a Loving Day Party a few years ago.  We are too busy with last minute planning to go this year, but there are parties in major cities all over the country!

    I really think that a lot of people do not realize that it was illegal for interracial marriage just a generation ago!!  I wanted to quote the case in our program, but my fiance thinks that is cheesy.  I almost planned our wedding date for this weekend to coincide with it (cheesy again) but the church was booked.

    @doctorgirl, AMEN to that!!!@! No one should have right to tell anyone who they can or cannot marry.

     

     

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    We're reading from Goodrich v. Boston Dept. of Public Health in our wedding.  I don't know if everyone will get the reference, but it's beautiful legal language that legalized gay marriage in Mass. :)

     
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    HumarockBride    January 2, 2010   Boston, MA

    YAY Massachusetts :)

     
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    JoesWifey    May 24, 2009   NYC/Wedding in Indiana

    Wow, I had never heard about this case or this day and it never crossed my mind that my husband and I would have been barred from marrying each other at one point (he's Chinese, I'm white, mostly Polish and Irish, but lots of other stuff too). Sometimes we get looks, and one woman laughed and laughed when I told her my new last name (a very Asian last name), and she herself is Asian! I too support the right for gays to marry. I won't get into it, but I have a lot of opinion on the matter lol. I've been saying for awhlie now that today's gay man (or lesbian woman for that matter) is yesterday's black man, and I've only been recently seeing the media portray their fight as such. I hope, that when my (future)kids grow up, they'll be able to marry whomever they please without fear of discrimination of any sort.

     
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    yogigal    June 27, 2009   Chicago (married in Philly)

    Yeah, I think we will place a quote from GoodrichVBoston on the back of the program.  It's fitting to qoute a case too, since we both work in the Legal Industry. I think I need to read the loving decision again to see if there is a good quote to use from that. 

     
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    august15bride    August 15, 2009   St. Petersburg, FL

    I love hearing everyone's stories! It is pretty amazing to think about how much the world has changed. Anyone else have any stories to share?

     

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