Post # 1
Today is the day my husband deploys to Afghanistan. He boards the plane at 5, and he is on his way. I’ve cried multiple times already. We are in a LDR to begin with. Now we will be even further apart. We talk faithfully every night on the phone. I’m going to miss that. Instead, I’ll hear silence. Absence. It’s going to be so tough, but I’m so proud of him. And these are the cards we are dealt. This is the military life, and I’m in it till the end. I took a vow to him, and with him is the army. I am an army wife, and my soldier is my hero. My countdown begins. 365 days.
Post # 3
@Christina0828: thinking of you!!! You’re so strong….thank you both for your service!
Post # 4
@Christina0828: I’m so sorry 🙁 He will appreciate your love and support no matter how far away you are from him. I admire you for being so selflessness and we appreciate your husband fighting for us! God bless you and your husband. If you ever need someone to talk to or vent to feel free to PM me.
Post # 5
@Christina0828: What a wonderful thing your husband is doing to protect and serve our country. I have so much pride for people like him.
I know it’s extremely hard, as my cousin has been deployed to Iraq and Kuwait twice in the past 10 years. His wife and the other wives all got to know one another quite well and formed a support network of sorts. Could you do something like that with the other wives? It certainly helped my cousin’s wife.
Post # 6
Everything will be okay! Please message me if you need to vent or just someone to talk too! Our first deployment was hard and it took me 3 months to finally snap out of being a sad zombie! The best thing you can do is find a hobby to take up your time, I personally picked up crotchet when my darling left to his first deployment. Do you live on base or off base? Having friends that are non-privledged civilians and privledged civilians (other military SO’s) have different pro’s/con’s. I suggest finding gals that are not apart of military life to distract you and finding other military SO’s to support you. Get in touch with your military support groups! I had so much fun meeting some awesome women these last few months while my darling was away at flight training! When things get hard you just have to remember how great him coming home will be!
Please contact me if you need anything because it is hard finding support and I have been there! Back during my senior year my darling left for bootcamp and all I had were friends that just couldn’t relate and got even though they made our situation seem romantic they also got bored VERY quickly! I appreciate EVERYTHING you are doing to support your SO 🙂 As they say: Behind every Strong Soldier is a Strong MilSpouse!
Post # 7
Thank You All for Replying!! It truly just means so much!
I currently live off base. I’m in NY, while DH is stationed in CO.
Next year, I’ll be on my way over to CO to live with him once he’s home.
Trying to be strong, and I know it’ll take much time for me to feel at least ok.
But I will not give up, I’m with my darling soldier through any challenge we face.
Post # 8
Date times and locations shouldnt be mentioned together due to operational security. However, that aside. It will be easier then you think, and it will truely show your strength. I always need a day or two to collect myself right after a depature, you do the same. But then you pick up and keep it together. He needs you now more than ever and this will be the testament of your relationship. He gonna see a lot things and go through a lot of changes. He’ll need to vent and he’ll nedd comfort and some things he jsut wont want to talk about it and youll have to be understanding and supportive of it all. I would say avoid internet milso support groups. I dont find them to be very helpful honestly. Find a good friend. I have a good friend who when SO is away I can stay the night and I invite her over and she stays with me and we keep each other busy. Just stay busy find a hobby to occupy the nights just make sure your phone is always charged. My heart always drops when I miss a call and have a voicemail when I turn my phone back on. Also, with that being said you cant live waiting by the phone either. find a happy medium. Like another bee said behind every strong soldier is a strong milspouse.