- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
This is long, but I will try to condense…
My Younger Sister
His Aunt #1
His Aunt #2
(**His aunts and cousin are on his Dad’s side. They have pre-bad history with FH’s mom)
A few months back, my sister started to plan my/our bridal shower. She lives on the Northside of Chicago, and wanted to host the shower at an adorable little bakery.
The family lives all around in the Chicago suburbs… and I was worried that some of my older relatives and some of his older relatives wouldn’t come because of the location. Since we’re all friends on Facebook, I sent out a group message, just asking everyone if they would be willing to come to the city. I got great, supportive feedback from everyone on my side, but not a word from anyone on his side.
About a week later, we were at his Aunt #1’s house for a cookout and she & Aunt #2 were asking us about the shower. I said something like “Oh I’m not really sure, blah blah blah, thinking of doing it in the city” and Aunt #1 says something like “Oh well we could just do it here!” and then like how she loves planning parties and we could do it family barbeque style (totally us) and just do it potluck so it’s no stress on anyone. Obviously, we chatted about this for some time as ideas were coming out.
We didn’t agree right then and there, but we talked about it on the way home and FH called Aunt #1 and officially agreed and thanked her for everything. Right after talking to him, she sends me a Facebook message about how she is so honored and it’s gonna be so wonderful, etc. I email her right back, within the hour, to express my thanks and get the ball rolling.
We FB & phone chatted multiple times over the next month or so. My little sister, mom, and FH’s mom all called her during this time to ask what they can bring, pay for, do, etc.
—This whole time, I think everything is just dandy. We see his Aunts again at another family cookout… everything is totally fine—
Fast forward to this week…
Aunt #2 sends a reply to a mass email (email went to: me, my mom, FH, his mom, his sisters, my sister, his aunts, just basically the whole family)
the reply says:
“If there is anything else you need please let me know? I know with the cost of the Clubhouse, food, and hosting the party, you my dear, have alot on your plate? How many people are coming? So I know how much to make? Is anyone else helping you out with the cost? If not let me know because in lieu of the montary gift, I can help with the cost of the party. Just let me know.”
Is a potluck barbeque really that expensive?
It was originally at her house, not the community clubhouse (which we discovered is $75 to rent for the day)AND didn’t my mom and sister offer you money & help that you declined??
But, ya know, I decide to let that go. My mom and his mom seperately had emailed Aunt #1
telling them how sorry they were for this miscommunication and that any and all expenses
would be covered, just to let them know.
But, before things could get better, Aunt #1’s daughter goes on facebook and writes something like (I wish I had copied it…):
“I can’t believe I’m related to such pieces of Sh*t who just take and take and take. I can’t wait for Saturday to be over”
I’m blindsided and crushed. FH calls and cancels the shower just 3 days before.
Now his Aunts & cousins are saying that I “NEVER” had any contact with them after we called “out of the blue” to “ask them” to “host their shower”. She wrote a long email to my mom, explaining a reality that doesn’t exist.
Her daughter unfriended me and FH, but she put on her mom’s wall:
“I throw my hands up in the air sometimes…saying AYO, Gotta let go! I wanna celebrate and live my life…saying AYO!! Baby, let’s go!!”
😀 people are retarted & immature mommy, it’s just getting them out of your life and enjoying that we basically kickass!
I got yo backkkk 25/8 and I’ll be more than happy to beat a b…itch’s ass for you ANY DAY!
Where is this coming from??
She goes on to say:
hahah because you can’t get your point across to dumb broads unless you make them cry or hurt them! I would know, I have a list going on!
???? What on Earth did we do that was so wrong here??
FH called Aunt #1 TWICE… she still hadn’t returned our phone calls…
So, I decide to email her and break down the potential costs, so that we could
reimburse her for any costs she may have incurred.
(She refused $$ from my mom AGAIN, but told FH’s mom to pay up)
I figured out every little detail that I know she hadn’t spent money on yet, and came up with
$197. Which is crazy high for a potluck barbeque that didn’t even happen. But whatever…
she doesn’t email me back so the next morning, FH drives cash up to her house. She isn’t home so he goes to her work. She takes the money and he leaves.
That night she sends me a message, blaming me for not contacting her (but I did??) and just basically telling me it’s all my fault.
So… the shower was supposed to be at 1, but not anymore… 🙁
I still feel blindsided and confused…