Post # 1
I’m writing a bittersweet post today. Today, at 2:00pm, I should have been walking into church to marry my best friend. Instead, I had yet another ugly fight with my father. In case you haven’t read my very first post ever on Weddingbee, my parents and I have been on rocky ground for a long time, about a year now. They don’t approve of me getting married before I finish medical school (in 3 years), and they’ve done everything possible to make both myself and my wonderful fiance aware of their displeasure. Eventually, he and I made a mutual decision to push back the wedding. Family is super important to both of us, and we wanted time to work with my parents so that our wedding day would be a joyous occasion for everybody. No progress so far, but even if this doesn’t work, at least we can say we tried. And we’re still looking forward to a beautiful wedding and a happy future together. But it still stings a little.
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent guys. It was a big help, very therapeutic 🙂
Post # 3
Oh wow. Sorry to hear about this…it has to be very hard.
Sooo…like guests arrived and everything and you had to tell them nevermind?
Post # 4
Sorry to hear about the family troubles but it sounds like you and your soon to be are off to a great start being a unified one & keeping what is important to ya’ll in the forefront!
I feel you on the date passing feeling as my FI and I pushed back our date b/c we knew we needed and when the original date came it was bittersweet too.
Best wishes to you, your FI, and your family!
Post # 5
MandyMarried: No, we changed our date in early December, so we had time to tell everybody before invitations went out. One of my fiance’s uncles did have plane tickets already booked, but he just used them to come visit the family, so it wasn’t a waste. It’s just strange and a little sad to actually get to today and realize, Oh today was going to be my wedding day.
amnystik: I’m sorry you had to push back your day too 🙁 I hope eveyrthing’s worked out since then. Best wishes for you, as well!
Post # 6
That is disappointing and tough. I waited until after law school to get married, but honestly with graduation, preparring for the bar, moving — I think a wedding PRIOR to finishing school may have been less stressful. Perhaps you could make that point to your family? It seems if you are mature enough to be a physician, you are mature enough to be married and keep up with your rigorous schedule. Best wishes.
Post # 7
I know it’s disappointing, but the good news is: you’re still getting married! I think you guys made a mature decision in trying to compromise for the sake of family. But don’t KEEP doing that, because that sends the message that they can control the two of you and your relationship. Time will fly, I promise.
Post # 8
That must be incredibly dissapointing. I’m glad you and your FI were able to agree and put what matters the most to you (family) ahead and try to work it out so everyone can be happy for you.
Post # 9
I’m so sorry. I know today has to be hard for you. We also had to push our wedding date back–a year–due to parental issues and law school. Although it was hard when our original date passed, I am happy that we are now getting married at a time that is right for everyone involved. You will get that too and be so grateful for it after having to overcome the hurdles that you are enduring right now.
But if your parents keep pressuring you then you may have to just stand up for what you and your FI feel is best. Think with your heads, but follow your hearts too. Regardless, celebrate your love today 🙂
Post # 10
I am so sorry 🙁 When June comes around I will kinda know how you feel (that is when our wedding was supposed to be). I hope the time goes by at a decent pace for you, and I hope you and your family get things figured out 🙂
Post # 11
What a bummer! I’m sorry your family isn’t being supportive, but the bright side is that with as hard as medical school is, at least you have someone in the wings who loves you and can’t wait to marry you. And I can tell you from personal experience that planning a wedding during 4th year isn’t bad at all, and it’s a nice distraction from stressing about interviews. Good luck with everything, and hang in there!
Post # 12
I am so sorry! That sounds rough. You two should go out and have a nice dinner together and celebrate the day. Or, be a rebel like I would be and go elope! Nobody has to know except you two.
Post # 13
Do what you want …its your life your parents did what they wanted…