Told my aunt to "F— off"

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What should I do
    Tell her you know and see if it sparks an apology : (5 votes)
    28 %
    Wait until she grovels, then let them come to the wedding : (6 votes)
    33 %
    Wait until she grovels, tell her she is forgiven but you will stand on her "regrets" reply : (7 votes)
    39 %
  • Post # 3
    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @drlolaz:  I dont think you could have said it better: she sounds like a premenstrual preteen.  Yes, I agree, you shouldn’t have blown up like that (however, we’re all guilty of it at some point), and it’s good that you apologized.  Bottom line is this wasn’t your fault/idea and she should have let it go the second your mom explained it to her.  I would just let it go – if she wants to come and apologize like a big girl, then accept it. On the wedding RSVP? She was petty and dramatic and said no.  In my optinion, this also deserves to come with another apology and her asking to change the response to yes.  If none of this happens, well, then, eff her!

    Post # 4
    5909 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2018

    @drlolaz:  Oh boy….and its times like this, I recommend eloping…BUT, what’s done is done and everyone is all out of whack over what was clearly a moment of stress on your part and total harshness on your aunt’s.

    Of course you aren’t going to make your cousin babysite and you certainly weren’t insinuating that your burden is any heavier than anyone else’s just because you’re getting married, grabbing your keys and cursing your aunt isn’t the worst thing you could have done, but it wasn’t the best thing either.

    Honestly, an apology text was probably a little feeble, you swore to her face, you can apologize to it as well…I don’t care how kooky, weird or bizarrly attached she is to your ex, you’re a lady first and last, knock on her door with some crumb cake and coffee and show her better than she’s shown you.

    There are moments when all things can be remedied…someone has to start the whole thing first though.

    Post # 5
    974 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @drlolaz:  I would apologize to her in person, like Nona said, be the bigger person. Although I think it’s probably a blessing in disguise that you blew the lid off of this whole thing. She has been passive aggressive towards you for a while it seems, and was looking for an opportunity to sink her teeth in. She bit, you bit back, you submitted in the end but who knows if she will do it again. I say make amends with her, really and sincerely, but if she refuses to come clean as to why she’s still holding your divorce against you keep her at a distance.

    Post # 6
    4139 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    You already apologized. She’s made her decision. What else can you reasonably do?

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