Tomorrow is our 6 year dating anniversary…

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’d bring it up; maybe not on the actual day, but a few days later. Does he know you want to get married and does he know your timeline?

Also: I was chompin’ at the bit at 6 years, that’s when we got engaged finally. :/

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Maybe don’t bring it up on the day itself, but I would soon. This is no way to live.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Better to have the conversation and get on the same page with him so you have the information you need to decide whether you want to continue waiting around for a ring or move on.  6 years is a long time to be with someone and not have any idea of where you stand in regards to an engagement and marriage.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@veilofanonymity:  I’d bring it up a few days later. Then the excitement/anxiety should be worn off a bit and you can have an honest conversation. I would make sure to not go overboard though if you are getting him a gift as it may make him feel worse…. DH & I were together for 8 years before tying the knot a few months ago so i know how you feel about the timeline issues! =)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

@beachbride1216:  

@canarydiamond:  +1 to your thoughts too.  At this point, you definitely need to have a discussion to see if you guys are even on the same page.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would also bring it up a few days later!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

I agree with PP’s.  I know for myself, (granted, it’s not 6 years lol!), but I was *hoped* that Mr VB would bring up a timeline or a conversation.  [cue scene in TED if you’ve seen it, where the guy gives the girl some jewelry on their 4 year anniversary and says “I know it’s not a ring but….”]   And when that didn’t happen I was a little disappointned. 

But for us, we have talked about timelines. 

I think that it’s good to bring it up a few days later. 

Side note:  I would suggest if talking about a time line to NOT talk about it in terms of how many days/weeks/years are we away but instead what I like to think of as a ‘soft’ timeline.  For Mr VB and I, it’s after he finishes school and gets a job. I can respect that and support that, even though I didn’t for a while, but yes.

Also, you’ve been dating 6 years…how old if you don’t mind me asking?

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@veilofanonymity:  Well if it’s not important to you and you don’t plan to leave him if he doesn’t propose, stop worrying about it and just enjoy your life together.  Smile

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

@veilofanonymity:  Then I do think it’s good to wait until after you two do something nice on your special day, but then def ask him after.  Why not?  Hopefully you two have already talked about marriage/kids/future so maybe later on you can do a relationship ‘check in’. 

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