Tomorrow is the day….

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t think you should have to convince someone of TTC, it should happen when both partners are ready.  That begin said, maybe he’d be more comfortable with just pulling the goalie and seeing what happens for a while, rather than actively trying to plan for it?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Leonard2B:  my husband was the same way… We both want kids, knew we wanted them sooner rather than later, but my DH was worried about providing for the family; he was actually more worried not about the money but how I would feel because he works nights and when we have kids he will still have to work just as much if not more to provide for us and he was worried how I would react to that.  Even though I’ve known this was our reality since we started dating, he was worried because his ex-wife had a problem with it (even though at the beginning she said it was fine) and he transferred that to me.  What helped was talking it through, hashing out our expectations.  Also, I think he thought it would be easy and would happen right away… this will be our 4th cycle trying (5th with the first month NTNP) so it’s starting to hit him that this could take a while and he’s realizing how badly he wants it… And it’s hard for him to see me sad every month it doesn’t happen.

I say talk to your DH and see what his actual worries are… Then maybe decide to NTNP anything for a few months before actively trying.  Good luck.

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