Post # 1
We were suppose to start TTC! Im 32 my husband is 34, I am really nervous but I think my husband is even more so! He loves kids but he is afraid he wont be a good father or be able to provide for the baby. We both have really good jobs, we just bought a gorgeous house with lots of extra bedrooms and have been together for 4 years, married almost 9 months. I am ready, have been off birth control a few months and have had no issues becoming regular again, but I feel like he might try to push it off longer. Whats a good way to convince your man nows a good time as any to start trying without being too pushy?
Post # 3
I don’t think you should have to convince someone of TTC, it should happen when both partners are ready. That begin said, maybe he’d be more comfortable with just pulling the goalie and seeing what happens for a while, rather than actively trying to plan for it?
Post # 4
The thing is, I am pretty sure he is ready. Whenever he is showing people our new house, he always says one of the rooms will be our nursery so we are leaving it empty for now and a ton of other stuff shows that he does want a baby. I guess you would have to know my husband to understand where the little nudge needs to come from, but like I said I dont want to be pushy about it. I was just wondering if anyone else had this same problem where the husband does want a baby but is nervous to actually make the leap to try. Who knows, he might surprise me and actually be ready, I am just getting myself prepared for the what if (he changes his mind)
Post # 5
@Leonard2B: my husband was the same way… We both want kids, knew we wanted them sooner rather than later, but my DH was worried about providing for the family; he was actually more worried not about the money but how I would feel because he works nights and when we have kids he will still have to work just as much if not more to provide for us and he was worried how I would react to that. Even though I’ve known this was our reality since we started dating, he was worried because his ex-wife had a problem with it (even though at the beginning she said it was fine) and he transferred that to me. What helped was talking it through, hashing out our expectations. Also, I think he thought it would be easy and would happen right away… this will be our 4th cycle trying (5th with the first month NTNP) so it’s starting to hit him that this could take a while and he’s realizing how badly he wants it… And it’s hard for him to see me sad every month it doesn’t happen.
I say talk to your DH and see what his actual worries are… Then maybe decide to NTNP anything for a few months before actively trying. Good luck.