Post # 1
I just have to get this off my chest. It’s just something I wouldn’t really share with my family. 11 years ago, I was raped by a co-worker. I was underage and drinking and mortified that I put myself in that position.I never told anyone and quit my job.
It took a while to process it, but I got throught it and it was put out of my mind…until tonight. I was at a black tie function for work. I was so excited to be dressed up and having a great time. Then I saw him. That bastard smiled at me and pointed me out to his wife.
I was in total shock. One of my girlfriends asked if I was okay because apparently I went white. I just told her that I had never eaten Caviar before and I don’t think it agreed with me. (The black tie was a food gala and that was a total lie)
I came home and got undressed and came to the bee. I’m proud of myself for not causing a scene and freaking out. I hope to never see him again, but if I do, that will be the last time I let him ruin my night.
Post # 3
Oh, man 🙁 That’s not fun. I’m proud of you for not making a scene, too! I don’t think I could be strong enough not to.
I’m so sorry you went through that!!
Post # 4
wow, hun. I don’t even have the words to say for this. I’m so sorry for all the things you went through. People like him don’t deserve to live but kudos to you for not flipping out on him like most of us would’ve.
Post # 5
My goodness. I’m very proud of you. I’m so sorry that that happened to you. I cannot believe he acted like that towards you. I probably would have marched over there and beat the crap out of him. I hope your FI knows at least so you have someone to talk through this with.
Post # 6
@MsBrooklynA: No. He doesn’t know. I accidentally blurted out to my mom. (I don’t usually tell her ANYTHING). Just the bees know.
Post # 7
I was raped at age 7 by my best friend’s brother. I was waiting for her to get home and he took advantage of me. I had to see him every single day. I never told anyone. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me. I am so proud of you.
Post # 8
@Ms.Shamrock:Oh my goodness! Well we are here for you. I know many of the girls on the board (sadly) have gone through something similar and know the pain.
Post # 9
I am SO sorry about that situation!.. I couldn’t imagine being in that place, your strength being faced with that is amazing… I will definitely be praying for you and your heart that your heart will be healed and that if you were to ever have to see him again you would be able to stand strong & with peace & comfort. (wish I could say more b/c my heart is just so hurting for you right now) :'(
Post # 10
i don;t think it would have been wrong to cause a scene. maybe not a screaming and yelling scene. but if i was his wife, i might want to know who i was married to. i would even advise you now to press charges and not let him get away with it. i can only imagine how hard that would be, but i think its terrible you went through that and he gets away with it. it was not your fault at all and he is a horrible person who doesn’t deserve to be with his wife or any woman.
Post # 11
I’m so sorry about that situation. I’m glad you were able to get out of there without having to actually deal with him. I was raped 4 years ago and I never told anyone until I met my FI. He’s the first person I ever told and it was like a weight was lifted being able to talk to someone about what happened. If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me.
Post # 13
You are a strong woman. A very brave and composed person. I am so sorry that ever happened to you. It probably was best to not make a scene there, but maybe you should try talking to someone else about this. You were the victim of something (and someone) terrible, you should not feel like it is your secret to keep. He was in the wrong, and if you feel like telling someone like your friend or your husband or a counselor, you are more than in the right to do so. I feel for you, and I’m so, so sorry you had to go through that and then see him tonight.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry that this happened and that you saw him tonight. I realise that you’ve told no one and that I am speaking completely from the outside looking in, but, if you can find the strength, perhaps you should go to the police, even though it wasn’t recent. You don’t want him to be able to do it again to someone else.
Post # 15
Thanks Bees. Last night was so hard. After I “left the hive” (read: logged off) I asked my fiance to go to bed with me. (Usually he stays up til 1 in the morning). He asked about my night and I gingerly told him what had happened.
I can’t quite describe his reaction, but I can tell you that sympathetic isn’t the word I’d use. He was a little cold and I regretted telling him. It’s just one of those situations when I remember why I play things close to the vest.
I didn’t sleep well, I’m off to work where all of the girls are going to want to hear about the Gala. (Be sure that this little incident will NOT be in the recap.)
I’m glad I have you guys.
Post # 16
Oh hunny – I’m sorry to hear about your FI’s reaction – it probably caught him off guard. I suggest talking to him about his reaction and how it made you feel. You should want to share things with him and if he’s going to be cold, you’d be less inclined to do so in the future… good luck!