Post # 1
I’m flying home for thanksgiving and it will be the only time I plan to go home prior to the birth of the baby. That being said my mom and aunts all want to plan my shower for the Sunday before Thanksgiving. I will only be 22 weeks at that point, which I think is WAY too early. The other issue is that I won’t have time to register nor have I thought of what I want to register for and then theres the issue of transporting everything back to where we live, we are flying so we’d have to ship everything. What do you ladies think?
Post # 3
@cora_123: I think it’s entirely up to you. It does sound like you don’t want it but are afraid to say no because it is your only chance. Personally, I probably wouldn’t. If you did though, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it.
Post # 4
@MrsJX3: I don’t really care to have a shower, but I’m afraid to say no because I don’t want to upset them. I also don’t want to be guilted into having to make another trip later for the reason of a shower which is what I had to do with the wedding…I know I’m a grown up but I already live so far away from my family (16 hours) that I just hate disappointing them.
Post # 5
I think if it’s the only time you plan on going home it’s definitely not too early. One of my friends lives out of state and was due in May. I threw her a Christmastime shower for the same reason. We all wanted to celebrate with her!
If I were you I’d make at least a small registry in the next week or so, and I’d also mention to your mom that you’re concerned about getting the gifts home. She can pass that on so hopefully your aunts ship the gifts directly to you.
Post # 6
I would say go online quickly and make a little registry. Do some place like Target or Babies R Us that you could return things where you live later, if you needed to. If they want to shower you with gifts, why not let them? You could always tell your mom that you are worried about shipping things home. Perhaps guests could order things to be sent directly to your home? Or your mom could mention gift cards to the guests?
Post # 7
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
Just do it. Register online at BRU, BBB, or Target (beware their return policy) and then spend Sunday returning everything and sending it for repurchase at a store back home.
Post # 8
you can register on websites that will ship everything to your house…it can be something non specific like amazon. make a baby wish list -even if you havent decided on a lot of specific stuff…there is still a ton of stuff you can put on. boppy nursing pillow, bottles, teethers, diaper genie etc (ie loads of stuff youll need but dont care about spending ages picking out yourslef)
then youll probably get a few small outfits which are easy to take back
Post # 9
I know I posted this 4 days ago but I just wanted to add/ask…if you were invited to a baby shower for someone who is only 22 weeks would you find that strange? It just feels so early!
Post # 10
As long as you don’t invite them to a second shower, it should be fine. Most people understand the travel issue in the last trimester. If anyone is turned off, they won’t come, and that’s fine. Since it is your family throwing it, and I assume family attending, they should be very understanding.
Post # 11
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
Under these circumstances, I would understand. If you only invite the folks in that town and your family really wants to host it, I don’t think there’s a problem. But you should spend a little time registering so hopefully you get the things you need.