Post # 1
Hi All. I’m new here, just got engaged on August 10th We’re thinking of getting married next July and would like to have the wedding at a hotel with a tent beside the lake. The only problem is the reception would have to end at 10pm because of a noise ordinance. It’s such a beautiful location and we love it there but we’re struggling with making a decision because it means the night is over so early. I don’t think having an after party is an option either. I’m just wondering what your thoughts are. is 10:00pm way too early?
Post # 3
Depends on when the wedding starts, how long it will last, whether you’re doing first look, if you’re serving plated multicourse dinner or just cake/punch, etc.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
What time would your ceremony start?
Personally I recommend at least 5 hours from the start of the ceremony to the end of the reception, if that’s possible then 10pm is fine– if you’re thinking of an 8pm ceremony time… probably not.
Also, you could consider doing an informal after party– if there’s a local bar or club that you and your FI like, then you can tell your friends you’re headed there after, and if they want to join they can. Those who want to party on will go, and those who don’t will happily go home.
Post # 5
Well it depends, how early are you starting the ceremony. Because mayby you can maximize your time there by having the ceremony from 3-4, dinner at 5:30 til whenever and then dancing. You could even serve light after dinner snacks around 9 for those who are hungry. I totally think it’s do-able.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Congrats on your engagement, and welcome to the hive!
I think it’s more of an issue how long your reception is/what your timeline is, than how late your event runs to. Will your ceremony also be at the hotel? Does the hotel have a bar?
Post # 7
I think it’s too early. I would be disappointed if a reception ended at 10 pm
Post # 8
were ending at 10. (starting the reception at 5). we’ll go to a local bar for an (informal) afterparty!
Post # 9
10pm is fine and honestly, then you won’t be nearly as exhausted as most people after their wedding! We only get until 11pm for the same reason but luckily our venue is located in a populous downtown area and we’ve located an after-party spot to keep the party going.
Post # 10
My reception ended at 10pm. My ceremony was at 3:00 pm (30 min ceremony) followed by champagne and hugs, photos after ceremony, Cocktail hour at 5pm with appetizers. Then the dinner was at 6:00 and drinks dancing until 10.
Post # 11
You could look at doing a Sunday wedding – certain aspects of it would probably end up being way cheaper, and you make the 10 pm cutoff work in your favor.
Post # 12
I had originally thought* (according to my mom) that our reception was from 5 to 10. At first I thought that was too early, but after attending a couple weddings this spring/summer I think a lot of people will leave by then anyways. We went to one wedding that went until 12 and there were very few people left after 10:30, for those guests who aren’t the dancing type weddings can get boring/tiring. And keep in mind that you and your bridal party will have a LONG day with hair, make up, photos, etc. so you may be more than ready to be done at 10.
I think if you love this venue then don’t let 10:00 scare you off. Like pp’s said have an ‘after party’ elsewhere.
*Found out last week our reception actually goes till 11! Luckily I hadn’t printed anything with the time on it yet so not a big deal minus more $$ for our dj.
Post # 13
My reception went until 9 – and I would say almost all of our guests over the age of 40 were gone by 8. Our ceremony started at 1 and lasted about an hour, cocktail hour began at 4. So it was a 5 hour reception and was more than enough time to get everything done and for guests to enjoy themselves. I would say our friends (mid 20s) probably could of used another hour, but we didn’t hear any complaints from anyone. As other posters have mentioned by 10 p.m. it will really thin out – as it has at other weddings we’ve attended this summer.
Post # 14
I decided not to have my reception at my ceremony venue because they also had a 10 pm curfew due to noise ordinances. I don’t think it’s the end of the world, and whether people will be disappointed depends on your crowd and how much they like to party/dance, but the more fun your reception is, the more disappointed people will be to have to leave at 10. So the answer is to have a boring reception!
Seriously, though, having a place to send people who are still in high party mode would be nice. Is that absolutely not possible?
Post # 15
Congrats on your engagement! As long as you start early enough, that is probably fine. I have never attended a wedding that ended that early though. I second the suggestion of an after-party. I know my group of friends would want to keep it going as long as possible.
Post # 16
Ours ends at 10pm! It is a 5 hour reception…however our venue (it’s an inn) has a seperate tavern in the building which is open until 12:30 so we are going to go there after!