(Closed) Too Early to ask BMs?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
406 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you are 100% certain that nothing could change, I say go for it. If it was at all difficult to choose your BMs, then I’d wait. I’m personally waiting a little longer to ask. Good luck!

Post # 4
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

We had a longer engagement, so I also asked my girls about 1.5 years before the wedding. The girls I was asking were people who I was in contact with regularly, and I didn’t expect those relationships to shift too much between then and the wedding. And they didn’t. So the timing worked for me, but I can understand how it wouldn’t work for everyone.

Post # 5
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Only speaking from personal experience, I would only ask the girls who are family for now.

If you asked me a year ago, I would have sworn on my life that my relationship with one of my bridesmaids would not have changed – but OH BOY has it, and now i’m stuck.  And because I don’t have the heart to “fire” her, I’m going to have her in my wedding pictures forever…

It also popped up that one of my cousins who originally thought she’d be away at boarding school (the only reason I didnt ask her instead of the friend above) starts school 2 weeks later next year, so she’ll be around after all.  So now not only am I stuck with a girl I don’t really want to be friends with anymore, I also have more bridesmaids than I originally wanted too.

All of this would have been prevented by me waiting until the 1 year mark.  So far that is my ONLY wedding planning regret.

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