- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
This may belong in etiquette but with the feelings involved, i thought it more appropriate to post here.
Okay all… here is my story.
I am already married, our 18th wedding anniversary is May 8th. That means our 20th Wedding Anniversary will be in 2013.
Our first wedding was a very small, nothing to really talk about wedding. We had a keg of beer, I had to settle on everything, my dress, decorations (wasn’t any hardly), my cake, my shoes… the only thing I didn’t settle on was my earrings and I paid like 6 bucks for them… ooooooOOOOOoooo. Took about 9 months to plan, and it was still kind of “thrown together” it was my 2nd marriage and his first.
Now though, I have decided we have been through all the vows… better worse, sickness health, and definitely richer or poorer, so I have decided that in 2013 we are celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary with the wedding of my dreams and are writing our own vows and it will be an occasion to remember and everyone having fun.
It was going to be a destination wedding, on a cruise ship, however I rethought that and decided i want to remarry my husband in the same location we originally got married in, Papago Park – a beautiful park here in AZ). So the save the date facebook page is still up, and my wedding website is still up, and will remain that way as I am sure lots of changes will happen and I want people to be updated.
I have started to plan this already. I am trying on dresses because I want to make sure that I have what I want, and NOT have to settle for ANYTHING. So say if I fall in love with a 1200 dollar dress I have time to save up for it, etc…
I want to try a few cakes, caterers, djs, photographers, etc and I do not want to be stressed out,and settle on any of these things. I want this to just be a fun experience and I am having fun doing it. I also am doing ALOT of DIY projects and I do not want to be stuck doing them at the last minute.
I am getting alot of flack from people though saying that I have started planning too soon. I tell them its never too soon to start to plan for the “wedding of my dreams”. My one friend who I was not even in her wedding but I did EVERYTHING to help her, I never missed an appointment with her or anything, even things that I thought wer stupid, such as spending an hour at davids bridal trying on different sashes with her dress because she couldn’t figure out that her baby pink dress looked cute with the black sash she originally purchased. I was her “go to” girl for the wedding, if she needed anything I was on it. It made me so happy to do that for her. I could care less if she is going with me to appointments at this time as I am just trying to get some ideas, and I haven’t een to any other appointments besides the dress appointments.
What hurts though is she is one of the ones critisizing saying that its too soon and I shouldn’t be planning yet. I have tried on a few dresses showed her pictures, she didn’t have anything nice to say a bout any of them (which if you browse my posts you will see one that I do look hot in LOL). I do not ever expect anything from anyone but it just kind of hurts I guess. There are others though too, I guess that one just kind of hurts more.
Of course I am in the very beginning stages and not ready to run out and buy my dress, order invitations or save the dates or anything like that but I also do not believe I am planning too soon. I like a more laid back approach and beginning this soon allows me that time.
so, what do you all think? is 2 years too soon if you do not want to settle or compromise on ANYTHING? especially when I am hearing stories of dresses coming late, or caterers going out of business, etc…
guess I just had to vent.
thanks for listening Bee’s:)
Peace and Love