(Closed) Too early to wait?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1030 posts
Bumble bee

Hello πŸ™‚

I did exactly the same thing. After 2 years I started looking at bits of inspiration and I had a whole folder of them on my computer (before Pinterest!) and then soon I got bored and I stopped.

I don’t think you’ll ever not want to look at rings when you pass shops, or daydream about what it’ll be like in a couple of years, but soon you’ll just stop thinking about it because you know it won’t happen for a while.

The best thing would be to not look online, not come on sites like this, and not be surrounded by ‘wedding’.

Is there anything you want to do before you get married? Go on a holiday for example, or get settled in a career? They are your best hopes of focussing your attention elsewhere.

It’s hard, especially when girls are ready for it long before guys, but soon that day will come. Smile

Post # 4
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hi.  You’re totally welcome, but I will say this: if your goal is to NOT keep thinking about something you know won’t happen for two years…skedaddle!  Don’t drive yourself crazy by reading posts here…=)

If you want to drive yourself crazy…then by all means, pull up a chair.  Here’s a glass of wine.  It’s a red (Tempranillo), from Spain, called La Flaca.  

Post # 6
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8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MissElizabeth:  Hi, welcome.

I think it’s normal to get excited and caught up in the idea of marriage & the future.

Sounds like you have a good foundation for it πŸ™‚

I don’t know if there’s a right time to get engaged.. what is stopping you from doing it now? Unless you want a big wedding and need to save for it, or your ‘final resting city’ is going to be closer to your families or something, then why wait?

Yeah you’re young, but you’re also college educated and living together so I assume you have a means to support yourselves.

I guess my advice would be if you really can’t get engaged/married sooner, then you should just try to enjoy your time together now and realize that 2 years isn’t *such* a long time. You could even start putting ideas together for your wedding, maybe go ring shopping together (or find or what you like in a ring and give him suggestions)… stuff like that.

Post # 7
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9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissElizabeth:  Mmm rose. Do you like the sweet kind or the dry kind?  I’m a dry lover.  =)  We’re going to have three kinds of pink champagne at my wedding…*insert excited dancing*

Post # 8
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95 posts
Worker bee

I’m in much the same position as you (ie been together about 2 years, live together, talk about marriage, but don’t expect to we engaged for maybe 2 years). 

Honestly, although I’m a little wedding mad at the moment (a bridesmaid in two weddings this year and attending 3 others), I don’t actually consider myself waiting. I know it will happen, but ‘waiting’ sounds painful, and I watched a close friend go slightly mad waiting this year until she got engaged last month. 

Ive got no advice for you, just enjoy being all loved up with your BF for now, by all means look at wedding stuff, I doubt I’ll be this wedding crazy for the whole few years until its my time. It comes and goes. As long as you’re happy with your timeline, do whatever makes you happy (ie if looking at rings make you happy- do it, but if it upsets you that your time is still 2 years away, then hold back as much as you can!) 

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