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    JanieLeigh    May 22, 2010   Virginia

    i recently decided to nix the previous venue i had selected in order to save my parents some money. by switching from a high-end night club to a romantic inn we'd be saving a lot! the only problem is that the new reception spot is a good 45 minute drive from the church. is that too far?! will people skip out on the reception?

     
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    mandalynn17    June 19, 2010   Medford, OR

    No...I don't think it is. But then I've been to many weddings in the bay area that were at least 30 minutes if not 45 minutes (with traffic) from the ceremony to reception location.  

     
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    Lillindy    September 2008   Bay Area, CA

    I honestly feel like that is too far.  I would probably be annoyed driving so far, because after all the fun you have to drive that distance (if not more) after the wedding and that's no fun late at night when you're tired, not to mention a little unsafe.  Staying somewhere nearby overnight may also not be an option for many guests who don't want to do all that driving in one day.

     
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    ms tofu    September 7, 2009   LA/OC

    I think its far, too. I went to a wedding this past November - and the church was about 15 miles from the reception. But since there happened to be a natural disaster (fires), everyone took about 3 to 4 hours to get to the reception - it was awful.

    Our wedding/ceremony/reception site is actually about 45 minutes from our home (and my parents home) - which is where the tea ceremony will be held. So, we are going to rent some homes in the same city as the ceremony site, too avoid the hour long drive. 

     
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    hickchick    not set   Texas

    45 minutes of open road or 45 minutes of swearing and that  *%^&$ in front of you?

     
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     I had a similar issue.  Ultimately my sounding boards talked me out of creating so much travel for my guests.  I think part of the problem for me is that 45 minuts away for me was shorter for some, but longer for others.  So we found something in between. 

    If the reception is pretty small, it might make it easier.  Can you pay for your guests' comfort, by renting transportation or hotel rooms? 

     
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    tbanks33    June 6, 2009   Austin, Tx

    If our guest really want to attend the reception they will drive the distance, or at least I would......but I have been told that I'm weird.

    It's not like its in another state or country. I say you should go ahead with your plans and keep the new venue, but have one hell of a celebration to make your guest forget about the drive.

     
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    saramari    08.08.09   Midwest

    <p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 6pt; font-family: Verdana">It depends upon what direction the ceremony and reception venues are in respect to your guests' homes, but this might create a situation in which some of your guests opt out of on or the other because of the travel. Then again, it depends on what type of area you’re from – I live in a very rural area, and it’s not a big deal to have to drive 45 minutes to get to places (especially cities) because we’re just so far removed from where everything is at. At the end of the day, I would go with your gut – every set of guests is different, and you know yours better than anyone else. <p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 6pt; font-family: Verdana"><p style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size: 6pt; font-family: Verdana"><span style="font-size: 6pt; font-family: Verdana">Good luck!

     
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    frenchbulldog    August 22, 2009   Dana Point, CA

    Hickchick - GOOD QUESTION!
    I don't think it is to far... however I would suggest that your guests stay at a hotel close to the reception, that way after the wedding they aren't driving far back to their hotel :)

     
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    fizicsGirl    8/1/2009   Michigan

    I think it depends on where you live.  My sister had a 45 minute drive, but it was in the Detroit area and everyone is used to driving (and many venues are that far from where people live).  I also drove about 30 minutes between the church and reception for a friend in the California Bay Area, and again that didn't seem far.  You might also consider providing some form of transportation.  I went to a wedding in SF this summer, and the ceremony and reception were in different parts of the city...distance-wise not too far but traffic wise could have been a mess.  They rented cable cars that picked up in the center of town and took us to the ceremony and then the reception.  Then they had a shuttle that took us back to the center of town.  

    I don't know how the logistics will work out for your wedding, but perhaps it could work.  Like if your reception is at a hotel where guests might be staying, you could provide a shuttle to and from the church. 

     
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    Choco83    summer 2009   California

    i agree that it depends on where you live.  i'm from the bay area so i think most people are used to driving 30 minutes to get to where they need to go. i will also have a 30 minute drive from the church to the reception but wanted it that way because the church is closer for 1/2 of our guests and the reception is closer for the other 1/2... so no group is driving excessively farther than the other.

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