Too far, Too soon

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I studied in Germany for a month a few years ago. For the first couple of weeks I moped around and just talked to my SO on the phone whenever he wasn’t working. Then I realized that the end of my trip was quickly approaching, and I was pretty much ruining a once in a lifetime opportunity. You will be able to go home in just a couple of days, so get out and enjoy being in Spain. Your FI would probably be pretty upset if he learned that you just cried the whole time!

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

Your FI will be waiting for you when you get home; crying isn’t going to bring him closer, make the program end sooner, or enhance your learning experience. Relax, LEARN, and ENJOY the time you have!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

kimbwerner14:  You can do it! FI and I are both in grad school and we live in different states. This is obviously not as far as you are, but I sort of understand what it’s like being in a place you dislike. I can’t stand living in the city that I’m currently living in for school. I miss FI all the time. 

The good news is that you’re almost through! In less than a week, the mini study is over. You’ve made it so far! I know it’s so hard, but try to consider what a blessing it is to get to study abroad, and really try to enjoy your last week there knowing that it’s only temporary! You can go home soon so for the time being, you should at least try to enjoy yourself. 

I think that’s a lot easier said than done because I know I’m a total basketcase, too haha! But seriously, you don’t have much farther to go and your wedding is coming up and I’m sure it’s going to be a beautiful day! Chin up!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

kimbwerner14: 

Don’t stress, you’ll be home very soon, so get out and enjoy yourself! Spain is a wonderful place! Grab a delicious bottle of vino tinto and DEMAND of yourself that you will pull it together. 

Things get stressful leading up to your wedding, and then adding homesickness to the mix… Things can get emotional. I can definitely understand that. You crave familiar surroundings. You’ll be back home soon. Hugs.

Post # 6
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226 posts
Helper bee

I can sooo relate!! I’m from South Africa, and FI and I are in Canada for work reasons. We got engaged here, and I’m finding it super difficult to be away from family and wedding related stuff. We have 3 weeks left here.

My date is only March 2015, so I can’t even imagine how you must feel. But this is suppose to be the time that I should sort out venues, catering, photography etc. and I’m stressing that I won’t get the vendors I want because I’ll only see them in about a month (9 months in advance isn’t much in wedding speak)

All I can say – you really aren’t a baby. I know exactly how you feel, and it isn’t fun. Fortunately you only have a week left. Enjoy that last bit of Spain, and good luck with the wedding!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Your time away is so fleeting, try to spend as little time alone as possible (that should help stop any crying as I doubt you let it happen in public) and try to make sure younhave no regrets! I studied away for 3 months and really wish I had made more use of the opportunity. 

Does having emails from home help or hinder? Whichever it is, ask for there to be more/less to help you. Try to remember that once you head home that’s it, it’s over. Squeeze ever last once of awesomeness you can from this experience. If you feel yourself getting too sad, head out! Go for a walk, get coffee, just enjoy being in Spain. Soak it up! I just gave similar advice to another Bee but try to imagine that it’s years from now, you are happily married and have been given the opportunity to head back to this time in your life for one day – drink it allll in. Allow yourself 1 sad day/evening a week (A bit of wallowing does help), the rest must be full of enjoyment.

Have fun! It will be over before you know it. 🙂

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

kimbwerner14:  You’re welcome, it’s nice to know that it might help. I’m from Australia and studied in America. The time difference killed me! Trying to communicate with home when they are a day ahead (so even if I had Sarurday evening free to chat it was Sunday evening for them and they had to go to bed) was very tough. But it was so much fun to study elsewhere.

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