- Miss Pez
- 6 years ago
So my hunny came home yesterday after a full day of training his guys (ie: law enforcement) and told me that he had some good conversations with an old buddy in between the tactical training class. They talked about me, relationships, the future, life, kids, etc. He told his friend that I was too good for him! (Very sweet in all aspects but it definitely made my mind swirl a loop-te-loop…. I will explain further on) His friend told him not to mess things up with me.
But with that said, let me give you a few details of my hunny and I so I can explain my point and ask a question. My hunny is by no means an angel or a saint but also not evil or a devil. We all have our flaws and my hunny buns owns up to his and his past. He was married before, didnt work out. They both cheated on each other repetavily. Not to cast blame on just one or the other, they were both wrong and it ended up in divorce 10 years later. I asked him if all his guy friends at work knew about his past cheating behaviour and he said, yes they do. (Eck!)
When we got together or started talking, he was the first to admit the things he had done in his life. That he has cheated and lied in the past to say the least but that he wants to be a better person. That he knows his tendancies and wants to change his ways but hasnt met a person that he has wanted to change for. (He once told me that every guy wants to sleep with other women but they either choose to do it or not to do it). I told him that I didnt like those qualities but I was glad he was up front and honest with me about it so that I knew what I was getting myself into. I told him if we further this relationship, I will not be that women or in a relationship with a man that cheats on me or lies to me. He promised that he wouldn’t. That we would always be honest. He Said he felt something different about me and that he has never felt this way before with any woman. (Yay me!)
3 years later in our relationship, I believe with all of my heart that he has been completely and 100% faithful to me since we started talking that night! I caught him one time in a lie and he has never done it since. He promised me that he would never lie to me because there is something about me, that I will always catch the lie and might as well always get the truth out. (I always can tell, some sort of feeling or inclination I always have when someone does lie, weird!)
But all that let up to this…. I am not an angel at all. I have no hidden halo. I have my flaws. I let my thoughts gets the better of me at times and I let that show. I have my attitude and quirky personality. (I get it honestly in my Italian family… don’t judge. Tehe).
But with his comment to his friend, that I am “too good for him,” made me really start evaluating myself. I don’t consider myself to be any better than him or anybody else. I definitely don’t walk around like I am better than anyone or with my nose stuck in the air. We are who we are. We can either better ourselves, change ourselves or continue to in a downward spiral that gets us nowhere. But with his comment, is it better for him to think of me as being too good for him? Or is it better for him to think that we are good for each other? I know he is complimenting me and it is the very sweetest. I just don’t want to be put on a pedistool. I want him to feel like he is just as good for me, even with his past because he has bettered himself for us, for me.
Maybe I am just loosing my mind or overreacting (but in a good way). I love his thoughts of me. But I wanted to get that out and see if other people’s significant others thinks this way about them…,