Post # 1
So my fiancé and I got engaged over Christmas. We have done absolutely nothing to plan a wedding so far, but I am starting to think about it. We live in Canada so it’s either a summer wedding or a really cold winter wedding at home. The fall and spring are so sketchy I wouldn’t know what kind of weather to expect so those are out.
He wants to do a destination wedding because he thinks it will be the cheapest and easiest option, being a guy that is of course all he cares about! I have a few concerns:
1) Legally getting married requires blood tests a nightmare of paperwork, so I have heard. We would probably do the legal thing here at home and then go and have a symbolic ceremony at the location. So what would our anniversary be?
2) Obviously less people would come, which makes me sad because I want to celebrate and have a party with all of our fun friends. My fiancé doesn’t like the idea of an at home reception because it’s just another cost.
3) Then all your guests are with you on your honeymoon! Or if you go somewhere else after, what was the point of getting married on a beach? I don’t want my parents or his parents or anyone really in the same place as our honeymoon. But I know part of his reasons for wanting a Destination Wedding are to kill two birds with one stone. I don’t see it like that though.
4) I can’t stand hot weather. Seriously, I’m Canadian and anything over 25C is disgusting to me. Let alone wearing a wedding dress under that sun and heat! The last time we went to Mexico (March 2011) I was dying on the last day in just a t shirt and shorts. I really can’t do the heat unless I’m in my bikini at a pool to cool off.
Anyone encountered the same issues when trying to plan a wedding and considering DW? What did you do?
Post # 3
your fist 3 reasons are why we decided to nix the Destination Wedding idea. We were all set, ready to put a deposit down but we decided we wanted to have more friends and family celeberate, If we had to legally get married before we left I felt there was no point in doing it all over agian if it is not the real thing, and I really wanted to get away from our parents on the honeymoon, did not want them showing up everywhere!! I wanted us to be on our own private honeymoon! So we decided to have a fun and simple wedding here and relax on a wonderful honeymoon after, best of both!
Post # 4
I’d reccommend sitting down and drafting a budget for both. (Include everthing – it adds up quickly!) We’re getting married in Canada, but if I had the chance I would have done Destination Wedding for sure (our little giri has had recent lung issues, and flying was questionable for a bit, so we didn’t want to risk anything happening en route to the wedding). Once you realize how much all the little things cost, and how stressful the planning can be, you might decide you prefer to get away. 🙂
Post # 5
@Future Mrs K: Yah I am really leaning towards a fun simple wedding at home too. I have never been the girl to care about flowers or favors or center pieces. That stuff just doesn’t matter to me – I need food, pictures and fun and that’s about it. So I hope I can show my fiancé that to do a wedding at home could be just as cheap, and it seems easier than trying to plan someone hundreds of miles away.
Post # 6
@MalbecMe: Sorry about your little girl. I agree a destination wedding would probably make sense if we were going to include “all the little things” and do it at home. A lot of the things I have seen friends slend a ton of their budget on are just not things I care about, so once I pick some resorts and venues at home to do a price comparison I’m hoping it evens out.
Post # 7
I am from Toronto and we are doing a destination wedding.
1) We are doing out civil ceremony in Mexico. It costs $300 and there is bloodwork and some paperwork. But in all honesty, it’s not THAT much more work than getting married at home. It would cost us the same for a civil ceremony here in Toronto.
2) This is THE MAIN reason why we chose Destination Wedding. We had a TON of obligatory invites which we did not want to pay $200 a head for. So going to Mexico really help to narrow it down to the people that matter the most.
3) Fiance and I are staying 5 days at one resort with our guests and then another 5 days alone at a different resort for our honeymoon. Guests are able to do/stay however long or short they like. But after the wedding, Fiance and I are leaving the resort. =)
4) I am born Canadian, HATE the cold. I can’t wait for the heat. We schedualed our ceremony at 5pm in June AFTER the hottest time of day, on the beach (with a breeze). Photographer also said it was the best lighting for photos.