Post # 1
Hi all! First time poster, long time lurker 🙂
So my good friend and I started getting a lot closer after I’d already asked three friends and my sister to be in the party (late last November). We have already bought the dresses – and right after that, I began wondering whether I should ask my other friend. It’s been growing that I really would like to ask her. And today (she’s also engaged) – she asked me to be her bridesmaid too. And the way she worded it – would you do me the honor of standing up for me at my wedding as a bridesmaid? – it made me realize how much I really would like her to stand up for me too.
I’ve been talking this over with my fiance for the last few weeks (before she asked me) and he thought it might be rude or awkward for her to join late in the game (engaged and asked BMs in November, wedding this May). I would really like to ask her, but I don’t want her to think I’m just asking in reciprocation, or feel awkward joining later. (My fiance still hasn’t asked one of his groomsmen, though dress purchases happen sooner.)
So advice, bees – should I ask her? How would you feel if you were the friend?
Post # 3
@MissCrackle: I don’t think there is anything wrong with asking her this late in the game especially if you are standing for her in her wedding. I would just be concerned with making sure she can get her BM dress in time before your wedding. I would just explain to her how much the friendship means to you and how you would love for her to be in your wedding. I think she will understand. =)
Post # 4
Only issue may be is she able to get a dress in time ?
Post # 5
I’d ask her! just tell her the exact things you to told us! Say that you’d been thinking about it for weeks but hadn’t asked because you thought it’d be uncomfortable, she will understand! i asked one of my bms after the others and she was thrilled!
Post # 6
Yes, ask her and I agree with @MrsRichard just say exactly what you said to us and ensure her it is not because she asked you.
Just tell her that your sister was an obvious and your other friends were best/oldest friends (I’m assuming) but you two have become so close recently and you would like her to be there with you.
Post # 7
Awww…that’s really cute of you! I was just about to post a question on here if it’s too late to ask people and we are getting married in Nov. I feel much better now!! Maybe I will post just to be sure.
I would tell her exactly what you have told us…that you feel so much closer to her and after she asked you, you realized how important it was to you that she stand there for you. 🙂 I think she will be honored.
Post # 8
I think if you explain what you just said here it wouldn’t be awkward at all!