Post # 1
I’m getting married at the end of next May, so I have 8.5 months to go before the big day. I bought a dress at Filene’s and like it…but I’m having second thoughts for several reasons. One, it was the only place I went shopping and feel like I missed out on the mom-daughter dress shopping experience. Two, I’m worried it will be too tight in the stomach area, even if I lose weight, because my ribs stick out oddly.
I plan on buying Spanx (any recommendations?) to see if they will smooth my midsection so you can’t see the outline of my belly button through the dress. I also plan on going dress shopping with my mom some time in the next month.
I’m concerned that if I go dress shopping, it will be too late to order a dress and have it in time for alterations. I’m also worried that by shopping again, I will fall in love with a dress that is out of my price range–not to mention that I’ve already spent $250 on a dress.
I know dress apprehension isn’t unusual. Anyone have any experience or tips for dealing with it?
Post # 3
If you do decide to go with another dress, it depends on the designer but if you go shopping this month you should be alright. Most designers take 6 months, and then if you’ll need alterations you’ll need about another month or two depending on the extent of the alterations.
Also…the best way to avoid falling in love with a dress out of your price range is DON’T try it on! As much as you want to just don’t put it on. It was hard for me not to try on a Lazaro a couple of weeks ago but I resisted because I knew it would just break my heart.
When you go shopping with your mom take her to see the dress you bought first. And try it on for her to get her opinion.
Post # 4
Watters makes a line called WToo. All the dresses are under $1,000 and they don’t take as long to come in. My dress was about $750 and I ordered in mid-July. It’s due to arrive Oct. 12th
I also had the same issue with my belly button showing through the dress, but I think it’s because the salesperson clipped the sample too tight. I am planning on buying the Spanx as well.
Post # 5
re: your Spanx question – If the dress hugs so tightly you an see your belly button, you may have a problem with the Spanx. It has a middle seam that goes down the center of it (if you do the kind that go all the way up to your bra line) and I have one dress I wear with them that you can see that mid line.
Post # 6
I’m getting married the same weekend you are!! I went dress shopping in June (fathers day) and my dress wasn’t suppose to be in until NOV/DEC!! They called 3 weeks ago and its in!! They told me not to get alterations until March…so I think you have plenty of time!!
About the dress budget…I also advise NOT trying on anything past your budget!!! I did…and I ended up buying it because I fell in love and had to have it!! So if you really want to stick to your price range..stay there and DON’T (I REPEAT…DON’T) try on something past that!!!
Post # 7
Thanks for the tips! My budget is not very large, so that knocks out a lot of stores I will even go into (dresses starting at $1500? Probably not good for me). I know you can negotiate at some stores, but I suck at negotiating!
I have my first alteration appointment for late February, but I guess I could change it to a later date if I found a new dress soon.
Post # 8
It’s definitely not too late to get a new dress. I ordered mine back in May, and they said it would be in sometime in October.. Imagine my surprise when it came in a few weeks ago! I think most places say six months anyway, which still gives you enough time to get alterations since you have 8.5 months to go.
Post # 9
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
Spanx also makes “power panties” that don’t have a line. I like those the best, actually. :p
Post # 10
I bought my first dress at Filenes actually! 🙂 Then a week later I bought my second dress – I was planning on wearing the second one for the reception….. and my wedding is in 50 days from today and two weeks ago I bought my dream dress…. a Reem Acra, originally 6800, got it for 1800 – I couldn’t be happier, I just had my first fitting yesterday – I day if you are having second thoughts, go for get a new dress! Its your wedding!!!
Post # 11
I think you have plenty of time to order a dress (I ordered mine six months before and got it four months later). I also had second thoughts about my dress, but in the end I felt really beautiful. August15bride did the same thing and she talked about on her blog about having second thoughts. I think all of us go through this, even when we found “the one”.
Post # 12
I think you have plenty of time. I got married in May, and I ordered my dress at the end of October. And I had PLENTY of time. It came in by the end of January, and then it just sat around until I started my alterations in March. It definitely depends on the designer, so make sure to ask when you’re shopping around.
Post # 13
I have to agree that you have plenty of time and you definitely don’t want to miss out on the mother-daughter shopping experience. Like others have said, if you don’t love the dress that you have, you should look for another one and shouldn’t have a problem getting it in on time.
One suggestion for negotiating (I got my $1295 + tax gown for only $765 including tax) is to leave the store to “think” about the gown even if you know that you want to buy it. Get a price before you leave the store. Then call around to at least 3 other stores to see if they can beat this stores price. If they can, then you can come back and ask your store to match that price or beat it 🙂 Sounds complicated, but it is SO worth it!!! I told them that I was quoted a price that was $200 less than I was actually quoted to see if they would come down more (sneaky, but I had to stay in my budget) and it worked!
Good luck, I’m sure that you will look gorgeous in whichever gown you choose!!!
Post # 14
You should be fine ordering a new one.
In the beginning of planning I literally ordered a bcbg dress online and that was that. It was pretty, and I was deadset against spending a ton of money or going to a bridal salon. Well…
In July I had my hair and makeup trial and realized that I didn’t love my dress. It made my butt look huge, and was just kinda meh all around. I freaked, and went to a bridal shop that weekend. Liancarlo happened to be having a trunk show, and they were amazingly accomodating. My dress should be in in October, which gives me two months until the big day should it come late.
If you can afford it, you certainly have enough time.
Post # 15
If you want to get a different one, and can sfford it…go for it!
Post # 16
You should definitely be able to get a new dress. I went in about six months in advance to try sample sales, but the stores tried to push me into ordering a dress.