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    littlecat    October 1, 2011  

    Has anyone run into the situation where they have more bridesmaids then groomsmen?  I (potentially) have double the bridemaids then groomsmen (8 to 4)!!!

    My sister is the MOH and part of the problem is that I am 29 and have been a bridesmaid many times for my friends.  I feel very strongly that if  was asked to be in their wedding, I should ask them to be in mine.  And then I have girlfriends who haven't been married yet, who would be really hurt if they weren't asked to be in my wedding.  We have tried to stretch out our groomsmen, but at some point or another, the relationships get distant- guys are just so different then girls :).

    So I guess I need some advice and encouragement!  Has anyone else run into this problem?  Any suggestions for entrance/bridal party dance?  Anyone have any photos from their weddings where this happened, and how they handled it?  Would love to hear from the hive!

     
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    WendyS328    February 11, 2011   Saint Louis,MO

    Oh well great!  Your groomsmen can have two ladies in their arms!  I'm sure they won't turn that down!!!!

     
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    teacherbride99    October 1, 2010   Boston, MA

    I agree with Wendy!  My brother was in a wedding with more girls than guys and he walked down the aisle with a pretty girl on each arm...I've never seen his chest so puffed out and a bigger smile on his face...haha!  It was actually really cute!

     
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    ThePinkSuperhero    April 10, 2010   NYC

    Honestly, 8 bridesmaids is just too many.  You will drive yourself crazy dealing with that many people.  I suggest you cut down your list by not inviting people just to be tit-for-tat- you don't have to invite everyone who invited you.

     
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    teacherbride99    October 1, 2010   Boston, MA

    @ThePinkSuperhero - I respectfully disagree!  I have 8 bridesmaids and they are awesome!  I went BM dress shopping with them and we giggled and laughed the whole time - they are so fun!  Plus all the planning is dispersed between 8 girls - which means less stress on the MOH and the costs of everything are cut down!  I am very happy with my bridal party! :)

     
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    kierbear24    June 23, 2012   Ontario

    I think the number of bridesmaids really depends on the individual and as long as you are happy with everyone who you have selected then it really doesn't matter how many there are. But I think it actually worked out well that you have exactly double so that you could do what the other ladies suggested and have two bridesmaids per groomsman :) I have 5 BM and only 3 GM (as of right now) so I really wish it was more even like yours lol.

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    I think there is such a thing as too many bridesmaids, but it's different for each person. I think 8 is completely fine, and sounds like it's going to work out perfectly with two girls for each guy. 

     
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    Lovebird724    April 9, 2011   Jersey

    im pretty sure that our bridesmaids and groomsmen are going to be uneven numbers (right now it looks like 7 and 5)

    as far as the first dance goes, i think we are going to just eliminate the whole "bridal party dancing with each other" thing - instead, after our first dance we're just going to invite everyone to join us for another slow dance - i think that elimintates the mismatch problem and the uncomfortable dancing (most of my friends dont know his friends well)

     
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    littlecat    October 1, 2011  

    Thank you bees for all this great encouragement!  I appreciate it!

     

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