Too many bridesmaids!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
161 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Personally, I think not including your sister is not right. If it were me I would be hurt. My suggestion would be to take a good look at your budget and figure out how to have her involved and I would also reach out to her again. You were close once, you could be close again. Meet up with her or have her to stay with you for a weekend. She’s family and if you can help it, don’t let family drift. This is a relationship you could  really make flourish if you wanted to and this wedding is the perfect opportunity to regain what you once had. If it is purely financial then I would see what costs you could cut elsewhere to allow you have a larger bridal party. Family matters and I can tell, however much you have drifted apart, your step sister still means a lot to you. Go with that so you don’t come to regret it later.

Post # 3
1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Add your step sis if you want. 7 BMs is not too many. Heck you already have 6! You can include her by having her read something durinb the ceremony. 

I don’t get why you let your fiance bully you into adding his sisters  and SIL to your bridal party. Immediate family is included in the formal pics anyway not sure why people choose them for the BP too.

Post # 5
26 posts
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Backyard

I am a BM in a wedding later this year. The wedding will include 8 BM and GM because of the size of the bride and groom’s families, but the guest list is only 75 last I heard.

It depends on the wedding, and the people involved. If it’s right for you, have a huge wedding party. For me, the number is 6, including the bride and groom. For Stephanie, the number is 18. As long as you’re having fun, it’s okay to keep adding. When it gets to the point that you KNOW it isn’t worth it to have a huge wedding party, take your FI to dinner and very sweetly put your foot down.

Post # 6
153 posts
Blushing bee

I would include your stepsister if she wants to be in the wedding. I’m in a similar situation, but it’s my parents (mom and stepdad) trying to limit the bridal party. I want to include my friends and my stepsister even tho we aren’t super close, but we use to be and my mom thinks it’s a bad idea afraid she won’t show or something. Do what u think is right I have had to (kindly) put my foot down and gently remind everyone it’s my wedding

Post # 7
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I have 8 bridesmaids & 8 groomsmen in my wedding party plus a junior bridesmaid. It works for me. People are always surprised by how large my wedding party is but nothing negative & I’ve stopped caring what people say other than my fiancé. It’s my wedding day & I want it to be perfect. But also if you guys aren’t close anymore, I don’t think she would be upset that she wasn’t a bridesmaid. I wouldn’t expect to be asked to be a bridesmaid by someone I had kind of grown apart from. In the end, it’s your wedding so do what you want.

Post # 8
242 posts
Helper bee

IMHO i think 6 bridesmaids and groomsmen are too many. Wedding parties are getting out of control!!! I think you can offer her another important position on that day, like your personal dress attendent, or something. That way she can dress up, be in a lot of photos, help you with your dress, etc, and you do not have to add another bridesmaid. I also don’t understand having to have certain people your fiancee wants there. It’s all out of control. It doens’t have to be girls are only bridesmaids and guys are only groomsmen anymore. I would have said if you want your sister, she can stand with you, etc. I know, I’m very opnionated on this topic and feel very differently than most people. Just my honest opinion though.

Post # 9
992 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

idontknow:  Maybe you could ask her to do a reading?

I know how you feel about obigations to have FI’s family in the bridal party, I have 3 brothers and asked my FI to include them and since we didn’t want a huge bridal party he had to not have two friends as groomsmen. 

If you feel though that you’d really regret not having her has a bridesmaid in the future just ask her and don’t worry about the number!

Post # 10
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Just have seven bridesmaids. I had six in my own and went to a wedding where there were 12 on each side. Do what makes you happy! It’s YOUR (and your fiance’s) day!!

Post # 11
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

idontknow:  Don’t worry about how many you have, if you are happy with your choices.  I have 7- sure its a bit big, but it’s also fun!!  I went to a wedding earlier this year and the bride had 11!!! (that was a little much in my opinion..)

If you don’t have her as a maid though, she could do a reading and even get ready with you.  That way she’s still part of the rehearsal and all of the events.  But IMO, what’s one more!! 

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