Post # 1
HELP!!! I am getting married in October of 2015 and am deep into planning. My fiance and I have decided to have a very small and intimate (nontraditional) reception. We are still having a traditional wedding in the church with our close friends and family followed by a VERY nice dinner. We were planning on having one attendant each, a maid of honor and a best man. Now I am considering having 3 other bridesmaids. I want to include his sister, my cousin (who is also one of my best friends and helping me plan the wedding), and another good friend.
But I don’t know if it is appropriate to have 4 bridesmaids if I am only having a max of 70 guests and no dancing or traditional wedding reception activities.
I need advice.. have you been to a wedding reception like this? Were there bridesmaids? What did you think? Are there other alternatives to include them???
Thanks in advance everyone!
Post # 2
FutureMrsIngram1016: I was one of 4 bridesmaids in a wedding with under just about 100 guests. I think if you want 4 girls, have 4 girls. 🙂
Post # 3
You can have any number, although I am a fan of thinking less is more. Granted, I am only having my sister (MOH) and FSIL (BM) in my wedding party… but I have been a BM for a friend and there was 6 of us total. That was cos her now-husband wanted 6 people, so she did it to keep it even.
To me, the more you have… the more you may have to worry about. 4 is a great number!
Post # 4
If you love them, ask them to stand up with you. hile I personally prefer smaller parties, there is no rule against how many people you can have stand with you on your wedding day. If they are important to you, I’d ask them 🙂
Post # 5
Any number is ok as long as they’re important to you. I’m having 7 bridesmaids and my FI has 8 groomsmen, you’re having a non traditional wedding so do whatever you want!
i dont think having a smaller wedding should affect your wedding party. It wouldn’t be weird for me to be at a smaller wedding and have a normal sizedwedding party….. Doesn’t really affect your guests at all
Post # 6
Thanks Ladies!! You are all so helpful!!
Post # 7
FutureMrsIngram1016: I don’t believe there is a limit on how many attendants you should/can have per guests.
I have seen 10 BMs for what appeared to be about 100 guests….I have also seen a 300 guest wedding with 3 BMs
Post # 8
Dude, it doesn’t matter. I had 3 bridesmaids and only 50 guests. I never thought twice about it.
Post # 9
Of course it’s totally fine. 4 is not a lot under any circumstances… well maybe if you only had 5 guests, then one person would feel left out. But really, it is fine! Not too many at all. My sister had 12 bridesmaids — now that was a lot! But that didn’t matter, either.
Post # 10
Haha, I just had a thread about this the other day, but I got the answer I needed so I closed it. From what everyone said to me, I’ll say to you. Have as many as you want and don’t worry about what others may or may not think. It’s a celebration of family and your marriage so do it however you want. I’m having roughly 125 guests with a grand total of 7 bridesmainds, two of which are my Maids of Honor 🙂
Post # 11
I think it is 100% your choice – you can have no bridesmaids, or 100! It’s your wedding. I am having only 2 (my sister/sister-in-law), and I don’t care who complains.
Post # 12
My FI and I have a similar situation – we’re having about 75 people at our less-than-traditional wedding and one attendant each. If we had more, we would have to have 6 people each, so all the people who are equally important to us would be included. Then we realized that if we did that, 20% of the people present, would be in the wedding. Seemed odd to us, so we’re having 1 each. We went to a friend’s small wedding and bride and groom had 6 attendant each. They were nice enough to ask the SO’s of the bridal party to sit at the head table, so we didn’t have to split up for dinner (which was great, btw). The thing is that half of the people in attendance were at the head table! So the moral of the story is, do whatever makes you happy, but don’t get carried away!
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
FutureMrsIngram1016: I am having three attendants on my side and FI is having four. We are having 80 guests. I think you can have as many as you want. I also think that 3-4 is a perfectly reasonable number for a wedding your size.
Post # 14
FutureMrsIngram1016: this question comes over and over…and i advise the same each time. i had 9 bridesmaids (and i think we had about 130 guests) and i would have had those 9 whether i had 50 or 250 guests 🙂 because its what i wanted. do what makes you happy!