too many bridesmaids?! help!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My future sister-in-law had 9 girls stand beside her at her wedding…

She had ALL sisters, sister-in-law (plus me, future sister-in-law) of both herself, and her now-husband in the bridal party, plus one of her dearest friends.

To me, 9 was a massive number, but it meant a LOT to her to have us all there beside her (along with the brothers and associated gentlemen)

It’s up to the bride, she can have as many or as few at she likes and is comfortable with 🙂

Post # 4
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712 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@jacklakin:  

It might be best to include the in-laws just to avoid any drama or hurt feelings.

Post # 5
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7208 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@jacklakin:  There is no need to add the future sisters-in-law. They are close to the groom, not the bride. The bride chooses girls close to her.

If she’s worried that if she asks one cousin she has to ask them all, then I suggest she asks no cousins at all, leaving only 4 BMs, which is a good number. Otherwise, if the other two cousins are less close for a good reason (e.g. less close due to age), then just asking the original 6 should be ok. I feel like 8 is a bit much, especially if it’s done just to include every female cousin.

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