Too many choices, anxiety and buyers remorse :( Anyone else feeling this?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

ugh, triple post… here begins my post:

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper

Let your partner pick some things! Especially with the engagement ring, but in general, trust his (or her) taste. I’ve done this many times.

If you both get overwhelmed, go with a classic, or something without a bunch of optional bells and whistles. Classic has stood the test of time for a good reason, and optional bells and whistles are usually optional for a good reason.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

…and here ends it. (Weddingbee, I do not “move too fast” nor do you have to post it three times to somehow compensate for my fast-movingness. :P)

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

*The more resources, time or money you have invested in the research involved in the decision making, the more likely you are to be unhappy with your final decision.

I would disagree. I spent quite a lot of time, but not money in deciding my rings and dress.

The trick is to know that there are items that inspire you to find something similar, but we may never be able to find a $10,000 dress at $500. My dream ring is a Verragio, but I was happy to find my engagement ring together with my SO (at the time) that represented the both of us. (I had a scorecard for the dress/ring(s): fit, price, comfort; etc)

Knowing my budgetary constraints, I look for vendors that are:
– not pushy — because I do not want to suffer from buyer’s remorse
– knowledgeable and are willing to answer a lot of questions about any product doubts/concerns that I’ve got

 … I hope that helps.

 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

@cuppeeecakes:  10/12 attributes is excellent!

I’ve given up hopes that the wedding will be “perfect”. As long as FI and I are happy, any blunders that happen along the way will just be a great comic relief! At the end of the day, the wedding is a celebration of a couple promising their life-long commitment to one another. I doubt our guests will feel that our wedding is “unique”. They must have been to more weddings than I have!

My plan is to grin like a chipmunk on the day of, so it will distract people from noticing that I’m skipping a lot of wedding-y things.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - White Point Garden, Charleston, SC

As far as ring, I’d say sit down and explain what you like and don’t like, then leave the rest up to him.  If he’s unsure, direct him to a good jeweler in your area that can guide him through the process.

I wouldn’t worry about buyers remorse.  Just try to go with the flow of things and stay positive.  I’m sure it’ll all work out for you!

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