Post # 1
I really want my bridesmaids to do their own look, within a certain parameter, but it seems like they’re a little paralyzed by indecision, like I’m giving them too many choices. I picked a length, color, fabric and designer for the dress, and they finally did choose their individual styles, but now the shoes and the jewelry seem to be the next big hurdle. I wanted them to get whatever shoes they wanted as long as they were within our color scheme. I love the eclectic look, and want them to buy what they’ll wear again. But they seem uncertain still, and I kind of am starting to feel difficult in a different way than the bride who tries to control everything – the bride who won’t just make a decision and tell her girls what to do. Yet I have made a decision – to let them do what they want, within certain guidelines.
After we all met this afternoon, one bridesmaid emailed us all with a link to Zappo’s and suggested I should go on there and pick out some shoes I might like to see them get. I realize they just want me to have a great day and have everything be just how I want it, but 1. Them looking and feelin their best is what I want, and 2. I REALLY don’t want to have to manage these details along with everything else 🙁
Anybody else struggled with this too?
Post # 3
I know what you mean! My BMs are all wearing the same dress that I chose but they can wear any shoes & jewelry they want and they can do their hair & makeup however they’d like. I guess this is more freedom than some girls are used to because I keep getting pics of shoes and hair especially and they ask what I think. I never say I don’t like something because I won’t be the one wearing it! Plus I trust them all to choose cute things based on their individual styles. I just wish some of the BMs would trust themselves too! I keep telling them whatever they choose will be fine.
Post # 4
I am going through the EXACT SAME THING!! I want each of my girls to look their best. I mean I have a few BM’s dresses in my closet that I HATE and didn’t want to do that to my friends. I happen to think that they are all hot and pictures are forever so why shouldn’t they look their best? I picked the designer, color, fabric and length and they were supposed to pick their own style. The kept asking me questions about which one I wanted them to where and they didn’t seem to realize that me saying that it really didn’t matter to me as long as they followed the parameters. My MOH just wants me to pick a dress for her. It is so frustrating!! I completely agree with you that I don’t want to manage this part because, hello, I have a WEDDIN to plan. I think they finally just realized that I truly do want them to pick their own dresses and to look their best and are all in the process of picking the dresses now. I have no clue how the shoes and accessories will go. I was thinking of making their jewelry for each dress style.
I love the fact that they want to make my day my day, but I just want them to get dresses that they would wear again.
Hugs! I hope it all goes well for you!