- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I’ve never been the kind of girl to have a HUGE bridal party but my FI has a big family and so we have decided on a bridal party of 8. Him: his two brothers and cousins (very close), my brother and his 4 best friends (from hs, college, grown up life) so that leaves me with 8 spots. I have no sisters, but a best friend from childhood (still very Close, like my sister, MOH) 2 HS bestfriends (again, still close) 1 grad school bestfriend/coworker (lived together, shortest friendship, only 3 years), FI’s childhood bestfriend who is a girl (shes great and it means a lot to him and his family I just dont know her that well yet but i like her) and so that leaves me 3 spots. However, i have 5 best friends from college. We are super close but only 3 of them and i talk on a daily basis so i obviously consider them my closer friends. So the other two (who i love dearly but just dont spend too much time with anymore unless we plan a reunion) I was going to ask if they wanted to be ushers. The FI three cousins (male) are going to be ushers and I figured the two girls could hand out programs. I also told them that they’re welcome to wear colors having to do with the wedding (grey tones) if they wanted to but not to feel like they needed to. The BM will be wearing different shades of grey so its not like it will look like they were trying to match but didnt. I am sending the BM little cards with cakeballs (my specialty) and i thought I would send the two girls a small card explaining the whole situation and some cakeballs too.
SO my question is, would you be offended? I think they see it coming since we just don’t talk that often as it is (but again we’re still close!) but i dont want them to be offended by a “lesser” role. They aren’t super dramatic or anything…