Post # 1
well…my SO let it slip a while back that he planned on proposing in Novemeber when we were both home in New England. I loved the idea of it since this is where we met, fell in love, and where we both grew up. Even in waiting…I wrapped my head around this idea and have been wallowing in excitement every since.
Well the other day he spent two hours at the mall after we discussed rings (aka:ring shopping)..
And then the other night, while he was in the shower, he got a text from his mom. It said “we are so excited for you! dont worry about money, I can help out with a loan if you need it. good luck!”
My head went ??? so I snooped a tiny bit and saw the text he had sent to her. It said: “:) I wont know about the financial issue until tomorrow and wont even be able to pick it up until later”.
THEN THEN when we were packing for chicago, she insisted on having his own bag. Later, he said he wanted to have a great time in chiacgo and it would be something we would never forget.
In summary: there is a 50% chance he is asking this weekend. and Im having sooo many emotions that I may explode. I am the regular happy/excited/eager/ecstatic one would feel when they are about to get engaged to the man they love. But I also have this weird side-feeling. Im scared. I thought I had more time. Suddenly I have this urge to visit Europe or take a dance class or burn some bras….something! Im worried I havent done enough in my single life now that Im about to step forward. I also really liked the romantic idea of getting engaged in our home town, it would be very special (though Im sure whatever he has planned is just as romantic and special) And im nervous because I talked to my mom yesterday and I dont think she knows. He hasnt said anything to her about it and my mom might be upset if he doesnt talk to her first.
HELP! How do I deal with all these feelings at once??? And how do I casually slip into convo that he should at least TEXT my mom and tell her…without making it sound weird???
Post # 3
@awolfpaw: to visit Europe of take a dance class or burn some bras <— lol I actually laughed when I read that!
Oooo good luck on the trip!!! 🙂 I don’t know if I have any advice on how to deal with all of those emotions all at one time. Just know you’re not alone. I saw on one of your other posts that you and your bf have been together for about 4.5 years. That’s about the same amount of time Fiance and I were together before we got engaged. Just know that your life doesn’t stop because you’d be getting engaged/married. You can still visit Europe and burn bras even with an Fiance. 🙂
As far as your mom, hmmm, I don’t really know how to bring it up, but if it’s important to you that he talks to her first, I’d find a way to tell him that. Good luck!! I’m excited for you!
Post # 4
Maybe you can say that you were talking about marriage/weddings, and she casually mentioned that she would really like to know before he proposed to you, and it would make her very happy.
Post # 5
@awolfpaw: wow, i didn’t even think about how life would change after we got engaged, good one to bring that up. I know you want to move forward & things will be fine. Just breathe & enjoy the moment, I know once things get rolling , you’ll have little time to process much. (from what I’ve read anyways lol) good luck!!!!
Post # 6
@awolfpaw: Hey girl, congrats! I think my boyfriend is going to propose this weekend in Milwaukee on a trip with his fam -we’re proposal twinsies (hopefully)!
At first I kinda wanted him to ask my parents’ blessing, not because I think I need their permission, but because it’s a nice gesture. But he thinks that makes me seem like cattle being trading, so he declined to ask to them, which I understand. I ended up just telling my parents that we looked at rings this past weekend cuz I was so excited! You could just tell your mom. But if you really want him to tell her then you should make up some cousin or aquaintence who just got engaged and how you thought it was so sweet that her fiance asked her mom first, or something. Or like what a scandal it was that the guy didn’t ask her parents.
And I second what @SimpleGifts says, you should definitely visit Europe with your mister! And make him take a dance class to prepare for your first dance at the wedding! And let’s be real, I’m sure he would be happy for you to get rid of your bras by burning or any other means 😉
Post # 7
Oooh, I totally understand the mix of scared/excited emotions… but I also gotta say, have so much fun on your trip this weekend whatever ends up happening!! 🙂
Post # 8
I cant figure out why Im nervous. I know nothing will change and that my SO will support whatever adventure I want, I guess I was so locked onto Novemeber that when I realized last night that it may be ALOT sooner, it kinda threw me off kilter and was a lot to handle. Im not unsure about him, but all of sudden Im like “Im young, Ive got time”. WHAT HAPPENED?? haha
@Toeternityandbeyond: haha we seems to be on the same page in every way! I like the idea of bringing up “someone else” in the convo. Thats actually how I showed him my dream ring…I pretended like somone on Facebook posted it and had to show him. In reality, I searched for it 😛 Its not so much an “asking permission” thing. My mom and I are close and she has really been there for me through a lot. We have been through a lot of bad times and I really want her to be a part of this wdonerful moment (now that we have gotten past the bad). Not to mention, his mom knows! haha!
PS: Enjoy Milkwaukee! Im from the Green Bay area and will be driving through Milwaukee to get to Chicago tonight…so Ill send some luck your way as I drive by 😉
Post # 9
Oooh, he worked so hard to surprise you! I fully get your suddenly feeling like you haven’t lived enough yet. It will pass, and your life and adventures aren’t ending, this just means they will all include your SO, which is much better IMO.
Post # 10
@awolfpaw: Getting engaged / married doesn’t stop you from burning bras, actually your hubby might like that LOL You will have time to do everything you wanna do in life as a married woman too. Don’t stress the stuff. Just enjoy all that comes your way. It is your life and don’t worry if someone mey get upset.
If all reasoning fails and you still feel like this, do what I do – have a glass of wine 🙂
Post # 11
I want to tell him to say something to my mom without making it seem weird. And trust me, everytime we bring up weddings, it gets weird and figdity!
No matter what happens, Im gonna have fun in Chicago! We havent been yet (only been WI for a year) and our favorite activty to do together is exploring new places….
…But im gonna paint my nails, just in case 😉
Post # 12
That idea of bringing up someone else as a way to mention telling you mom is great! It’s so natural to be nervous, I would not worry about it. Good luck!
Post # 13
Woot! They came out AWESOME! My right rand is not as good (since I am not left handed)…but who cares about the RIGHT hand! haha. If banything, Im super proud because I painted them myself ^.^
Post # 14
Pretty nails. Enjoy your stay in Chicago. I hope you come back with a ring but, after reading your post, it seems that you will be happy either way. Good luck!
Post # 16
Welp back from Chicago! What a fun city! We di everything! The Hancock Tower, shopping, Navy Pier, etc…and the weather was perfect. the hotel was amazing! we stayed right down town using my rewards points so I paid amost nothing for it. We ate so much food. OH and the Blue Angels were there for the Chicago air and Water show! It was kick-ass! But I think my favorite place was Millenium Park, It was so beautiful and serene. Everyone was out just enjoying themselves. And there were tons of interesting statues and fountains. OH and this happened there:
!!!! Im Engaged! He told me after that when we went into the jewerly store about 3 weeks ago to just point at rings, he KNEW he couldnt wait any longer and has ants in his pants every since. He wanted November because home is special to us, but he couldnt wait another second to ask. So in the end, we BOTH were under the waiting spell 🙂 BUT NOW, that spell is broken and I am SO thrilled!