Post # 1
Ok Bees I need your help!!!!
One of my co-workers asked me what I was doing as favors and since I live in the city that never closes (New Orleans). I deceided on having three items and one happens to be pralines.
Now yes this is my wedding and she is older and some say the older the wiser, but she is trying to talk me out of doing three favors. She says that people will just come to see my gown, eat my food, talk about me afterwards and not bring a gift.
Since I’m not really to concerned with gifts to be honest and we are registered I am stuck between a rock and a hard place, because I feel she may be right and to top it off my grandmother said the same thing, go figure!
So I’m asking your opinions of the matter what do you think?
Are or was your situation the same?
Post # 3
I’d say it totally depends….I think favors are a good thing, as long as you’re a.) not spending a fortune and b.) it’s not something that will get thrown away.
I think it’s just another way of showing your gratitude for everyone coming to see you. If you want to do three favors and can fit it into your budget, then I say go for it!
Post # 4
i think it would help if we knew what the other two favors would be. do you already have an idea for them? depending on what the other items are, three may be a little much, or it might fit right in. would you have them pick and choose one? or give everyone everything?
Post # 5
@ kmattso2, I was thinking the same. Thanks for your help.
@ tea, the other two favors would be a 1.) folded fan since it is an outdoor wedding, and 2.) a bar of handmade scented soap with miniture fleur de lis on them in my weding colors, along with the pralines. Everyone would get 1 of ea.
Post # 6
your co-worker is right, and she sounds very funny for breaking it down like that! favors are completely unneccesary, but i think they are just fun for the giving. i agree, as long as it’s not a big deal to your budget and if you don’t mind if people forget them or throw them out. when i saw “3 favors”, i immediately thought to edit them down, but all 3 favors sound perfect for a nola wedding! the fan is very practical and will be appreciated for those who get hot or need sun shelter, and pralines and fleur de lis are quintessential nola! but, if you want to edit so you don’t have to give all 3 to everyone, maybe a basket of fans set down for whoever wants one, and maybe alternating one praline and one fleur de lis on the table? technically, a couple would get both?
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!
I think it’s up to you how many favors you have. If you can afford to do three favors, or you have your heart set on it, you should probably go for it. 🙂
Post # 8
LOL your coworker sounds hilarious. If you’re not concerned about them being left behind/thrown away/not getting presents, and you really want to do these favors, by all means do them. If you haven’t already made the soap and want to scale back…..I say skip it. It’s a lot of work, we made soap for my sis’ wedding.
Post # 9
What favors you give is totally up to you. You don’t give favors because you think it will get more gifts out of your guests, you give favors as a thank you to people for coming and supporting you, and they’re a fun way to add more personal details to the wedding. I think all of your favor options sound great, and if you want to give them all – do it! If you need to cut costs, cut some of the favors, and if you don’t think people will really appreciate them, you might want to think about putting the money elsewhere. Otherwise, I don’t think it’s too many, I think it’s great!
Post # 10
Ohh, and we’re date twins! 🙂 Man, I haven’t thought about favors at all yet!
Post # 11
with your choices, i think 3’s fine. i thought they would be something bigger, you know what i mean? your choices aren’t overwhelming in that sense. i figure the fan is more practical than just a favor [you can place those on the seats during the ceremony]. especially with the weather the way it can be down in nola. i say go for it!
Post # 12
I wouldnt consider the fan a favor but it definitely is a nice gesture for your guests. I think your favors sound fine and if its in budget to do all of them theres nothing wrong with it! I do agree with Noelle, if you are making the soap yourself, depending on how many guests you have the soap making might be a huge task.