Post # 1
Hi everyone, I have a question about bridal parties. We both have a lot of people we are very close to, and our bridal party is uneven and pretty large for a smallish, around 75-100 person wedding. Right now I have 6 bridesmaids, and my fiance has 8 groomsmen. My fiance is having 7 of his closest friends, and my brother right now. He has realized that he forgot to include his brother in law, with whom he is also very close and whos wife and daughter are a bridesmaid and flowergirl. So initially I thought he should not ask him as the bridal party is already very large and uneven? But I know he wants to, so do you think 6 bridesmaids, 1 flower girl, and 9 groomsmen would look alright? I have a couple more girls I could ask but I really wanted to keep it to my close family, and bridesmaids are expensive! Plus I dont really like the idea of adding people just to even the numbers. What do you think? Any advice? Thanks!
Post # 3
Uneven numbers of attendants are becoming increasingly popular. Don’t add people you aren’t comfortable with just to make things looks better. Your attendants are supposed to be those closest to you who support your relationship and alot of people who have added folks just to even out the numbers or due to pressure by family say they ended up regretting that choice. Go with your original gut choice and don’t add anyone else. Contrary to popular belief, many folks would prefer to be a guest and find that to be just as honorable as any position they may be asked to fill.
Post # 4
No need to even the numbers. Just have a few of your bridesmaids walk up with two groomsmen on their arms. I’ve seen plenty of weddings where they did something similar. Otherwise you can always have the extra groomsmen be ushers instead.
Post # 5
There are many other important ways to include family and frineds in your wedding. Someone to do the readings, hand out programs, lead a prayer…. You could have ushers that are not groomsmen. These guys would simply greet guests and seat them, roll out the aisle runner if you have one, light candles, escourt mothers in … They could walk up the aisle together prior to the bridal party.