Post # 1
Alright, we are a tight budgeted couple. Not because we have to be but because we want to save as much money for a house and honeymoon as possible. so we are hoping to keep our wedding between 3 and 5 thousand dollars. I know we are crazy, but we are also very simple and easy going. We just want our friends, family, and a taco lady.
Anyway, This is possible if we can keep our guest count under 75. But he wants to invite every friend he can think of. this will bring our count well over 150. How do we balance this and not expand our budget?
Post # 3
You tell him “No, not unless you want to spend more.” 🙂
I think for under 100, your budget is do-able. For more? I wouldn’t be certain.
Post # 4
$5000 budget, is it only for the reception or the whole wedding? If it is only for reception, then maybe you can:
1. find a restaurant instead of hotel (this also saves the cost of hiring dj or band)
2. diy invites and decor
3. find local cheaper catering
4. have fewer course of meal
5. wedding cake / wedding cup cakes to replace dessert
6. no alcohol or minimal number of alcohol
7. homemade wedding cake/ wedding cup cakes
8. don’t rent luxurious linens or plates
9. Use candles for decor/ centerpieces instead of other expensive alternatives
Post # 5
I think you are right- you may have too many guests for your budget. I had a smaller wedding on a smaller budget- and you have to be selective about he people you want to invite. Or you have to spend more. It seems you are in the fortunate position of being able to bump up your budget a bit if you and the FI determine that some of his extre guests are important enough for you to want them there.
Post # 6
If possible I would try & talk him down to 100 or less- then count on some of those people not showing up…. taco lady? I think you could go bigger on the guestlist if you have a backyard reception & hire someone to cook- the per person food/bev amount would go way down (But it would be alot of work!)I had this same problem w/ FI when first engaged- he wanted to invite everyone he’d ever met, and after making a list I realized the only way we could afford to feed that many people was to go with having at someone’s house/backyard. The restaurant/DIY advice given above is an option too- depends what kind of deal you can get at a restaurant/how many people come, if you have to rent a room, how expensive thier liquor is, etc.
Post # 7
Our ceremony will be on the beach, with the permits and minimal decor (if we have any) will only cost us about $100. We are having a backyard reception at my grandparents estate. Which will save a huge amount of money.
i think it’s completely possible, I still want to make sure it’s not cheesey and we have the money to decorate the place nicely, rather than having tons of people and not being able to spend the time with them.
Post # 8
@SandAndSea:Ohhh SandAndSea….how do I love thee?!!! LOL. You are a girl after my own heart!!!!
FI and I make a decent living. And we are on a strict budget as well, not bc we can’t afford it and the house we are purchasing has a bit to do with it. But honestly, we could do it all if we were adement about it. We just don’t think we have to spend a crazy amount of money to have an awesome wedding (shoulder shrugs). Our guest list is 75 people and we are RIGHT on budget w our wedding so far. And the BEST way to have the details and vibe I want and show everyone a good time is to keep the guest list at 75. I agree w previous poster, if he wants more, he’d have to pay more. Not sure if you can do so many guests with the same money.
Post # 9
To add to Big_Monch’s list of budget tips, think about having your wedding on a non-traditional Saturday.
Our wedding is Friday July 22, 2011 and we saved upwards of $2000 on our venue ALONE just for having it on Friday instead of Saturday. We had the option of doing it on a Sunday as well, and I thought about an elegant Sunday brunch w belgium waffle station and BACON (oh Gawd, bacon!!!) and quiches and Mimosas, etc. But more than 1/2 of our guests are OOT, and we thought it would be better on travel arrangements going home on either the Saturday or Sunday following.
Having the wedding on Friday is giving us wiggle room with negotiating with other vendors as well, like the photog, caterer and dj!!!
Post # 10
@SandAndSea:Retract retract retract!!! I guess I was typing my responses while you were posting yours and I didn’t see it. If you are having your wedding on the beach and reception on a family member’s estate, you got this in the BAG!!!! Be careful with renting tables and chairs and yada yada. It’s still alot of guests and usually beach and backyard weddings are smaller. Backyard wedding can get expensive bc you have to get ev-er-y thing…tables for guests, tables for buffet/food, chairs for ceremony, chairs for reception or (transportation of them if you are using them for both), etc. But if there’s enough space for 150 and you can find a reasonable place to rent your items, you can do it on your buget!!
Post # 11
@SandAndSea: Our ceremony will be on the beach as well 🙂 With the details you’ve given, it’s SOOO possible & doesn’t sound cheesy at all! If you’re getting a caterer, shop around for the best prices… hit the liquor stores when sales are going on (same for decor,soft drinks, favors, etc). The PP was right about the renting of tables, chairs, tent, etc- I think that will end up being your biggest expense…
Post # 12
Since we are planning on having children immediately, we decided to have an intimate wedding w/ 35ppl(mostly family). To stay under 5K:
Getting married on a Thursday @ a State Park. Having a wedding dinner @ a local restaurant that has an package that includes wine and beer. Since my girlfriend is an event planner, will handle the flowers for the reception and the rose aisle. Cupcakes instead of a wedding cake. Also spending more $$$ on annnouncements instead of invitations. I’m spending 1/3rd of my budget on the photographer because I want to capture as much as possible on our Day.