- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
So at the very begining of the planning process my Fiance and I sat down and discussed what type of vibe we wanted for our wedding. And we agreed we wanted our friends to get to spend as much time together as possible. (One pf the best parts about a wedding is getting all your old friends and family together and we are always disappointed that after the 5 hour reception that everyone goes on their merry way and dont see each other till the next wedding!)
Because of this, we planned a lot of parties/options for guests to attend if they want but im worried people will either #1 feel obligated and not want to do it or #2 people will be tired and skip them after RSVPing yes and then we will be out money! (we are sending seperate invitations for the various things) We live in the City and everything is walkable for a quick 5 min. cab ride from the host hotel. The hotel is also in the shopping area of the City so we are hoping people might want to do some Xmas shopping and then meet back at the hospitality suite at the hotel inbetween the wedding/reception and the afterparty.
Here is our timeline
Friday Night- No rehearsal dinner, instead a “Welcome reception” at a cool quirky old mansion. Wine and Beer plus heavy “comfort food” appitizers (Sliders, Mac&Cheese, Tomato soup w. Grilled cheese etc.) All out of town guests and close friends/famnily invited
Saturday- 10 am-330 Brunch/Wedding (wedding and reception at the same place) Mimosa Bar, bloody mary bar, omelet station, etc. Great Sinatra Cover Band!
Saturday Night – “After Party” at a nice bar (reserved for us) with an AWESOME 90s cover band. This is the one i really hope people dont skip after being too tired from the morning. Open bar and light snacks. 8pm-12
I was worried some people would go home nd be too tired to come back for the great afterparty, so we have reserved a 2 bedroom hospitality suite at the host hotel with a living room/Kitchen/ etc for people to hang out in. Change clothes, watch TV, even take a nap. My Fiance and I will hang out in there too.. really low key just a chance to see everyone and catch up with people we dont see much
Sunday – Football sunday! At Fiance dads house — cookout/casual/football games on all TVs mostly family and close local friends.
Also– this is all Thanksgiving weekend – (ugh please dont bash me! the last thread about thanksgiving weekend weddings almost had me in tears!) But Fiance and I both grew up here so most of our friends and family would be coming into town that weekend anyway which is why we choose it. And for those who are making a special trip we wanted to cover as many meals and open bars as possible so they feel like it was worth it!
What would you think as a guest if you saw all this? Overwhelmed? Obligated? or as my Fiance thinks.. some people might think they “dont count” even though we send them an invite (as in.. that afterparty must be only for close family and they sent an invite out of kindness but they really dont want me there”) NO WAY! we hope all of our friends become friends after this!!