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Do you have room for all these people? I'm having a shower this spring for 60 and thought that would be too many. I don't know what you could do with so many people. Will you have the bride opening her gifts? Good luck and hope you have a big house:)
It's actually at a lodge that can accomodate up to 130. We are inviting apporx 200 people, so these are all of the girls that are invited to the wedding.
Hmm...I don't know. You should obviously do whatever you want. Traditionally, however, showers were only for close friends and family. I personally might question why there were so many people at a shower. However, maybe that's common where you live?
That's usually how many people go to showers in my family. I've never been to a bridal shower at a person's house, and I've been to 12 of them. They're always a brunch at a function hall, probably because so many people are invited. If you're going the function hall route, then your number seems fine, but that's a lot of people to fit in a house. And honestly, we never play games. It's more of a chance to just catch up with family and friends. A few times there was a trivia/multiple choice type thing at every person's plate setting and the winner at each table would get the centerpiece, which would be a nice vase or something.
I don't know if you could give people as much personal attention with that sized shower. I've never been to a large one.
wow, thats alot! i really enjoy attending showers that are intimate (12-20 guests). any more than that i feel like i dont get to spend any time with the bride or her family and opening gifts takes FOREVER.
also, feeing and accomodating that many people is going to cost a pretty penny.
Ive been to some super huge ones hosted by our church--and those are always fun!
I think you're going to get mixed comments about this because it is a really regional/cultural difference thing. I know we were invited to a shower last year (I couldn't go but my mom and sister did) that was at a hall, with a big meal, and all the women were invited. It was also held by the mother of the bride. In my family's background, a shower is a small event for just closer invitees with cake and sandwiches. And it is a serious faux pas for the mother of the bride to host!
It just depends on the type of event is the norm in your family/background. If you're having it at a lodge and it's more like the first type of event I mentioned, I think that number is fine.
You could give the attendees more personal time if you had more than one, which might be nice since you wont really get to spend personal time with them at your wedding. Just a thought. :)
If you do a shower that large, I probably wouldn't do games or open the gifts there. You'll need all the time you have to be able to talk to everyone most likely. I think that is an awful lot of people to coordinate a game with. Unless you do a not very interactive drawing type of game or something.
The thing I would be worried about is opening gifts. If everyone brings a gift you will be opening gifts for ages!
@Brianalaura: You are right. It's funny how different these things are even in Ontario. I always heard that the mother of the bride hosting the shower was a big no-no but every single shower I have gone to since moving here has been hosted by the mother of the bride. Apparently in that area it's normal for them to host it (which I guess kinda makes sense because it's one less thing for the bridesmaids to pay for).
I spefically asked for one shower. The invite list is around 80. My dad and step-mom and FI's family are all smaller. My mother's side is huge. But I didn't want to have one mom's side one for everyone else. So one it was.
If you are worried about the length of time, have your guests play gift bingo. It keeps people's attention focused.
Otherwise I like the one shower idea, gives people a chance to meet and greet before the wedding.
I went to a shower like this. It does take a while to open gifts. It lost a lot of steam before we were half way through.
I also haerd the tradition was to keep them rather small (those really close to the bride.) My vote would be to break them into two showers.
@Stormy: Yeah, it's crazy how different it can be in one region! Maybe because it's so multicultural in a lot of Southern Ontario? They also asked for "Cash Only" in the invitations (which horrified the mother of the groom, my mom's friend, as you would never do that in our background), which is common for them! They had a 4 course plated meal and everything. I think it's like a lot of things with weddings, you just need to know what your family/friends expect and are used to doing! E.g. Cash Bar, Dollar Dances, Stag & Does. . .and so on.
We are in the same boat--probably inviting close to 70 or so to my shower too. I believe it will be at my parents house, in the back yard. I was debating 2 showers too... I suggested it to my bridesmaids and told them to do whatever they felt was easiest/best for them. I never thought I would have such a large shower but after inviting all my girlfriends, family and parents friends, the list just kept growing! I recently went to a formal shower that had about 100 people, place cards telling us what table number we were sitting at, 5 course meal.. bigger than anything I had been too but it worked well and was very fun!
@Boston Bee: Wow, that's interesting that you've never been to a shower at someone's house. I'm thinking of having my shower at our church, but I think it's strange because I've only been to bridal showers held at someone's home. Interesting how different parts of the country do things differently.
Down here in the deep south, with that many people, we'd host a bridal tea instead of a bridal shower. They're usually held on Sunday afternoons from 2-4 where ladies and girls can come and go as they please. The bride typically does not open gifts, this is done for her by the hostesses and carefully logged for thank you note sending. The gifts are displayed with the card or name of the giver of the gift.
No games or anything like that. Refreshments are usually punch, mints, finger sandwiches, or small fruit cups, and petits fours or a cake. Teas are a lot of fun and a great time for just mixing and mingling.
Our showers are usually much smaller scale, maybe in someone's home or smallish room with games and things like that. Never more than about 30 people attending (and that's a big shower).
Way too big. I would split it into smaller groups like your family, groom's family, work people, friends. As someone who has thrown a lot of parties you are asking for A LOT when you hand over a guest list that big. The people throwing the party have to shell out some hard cash and it takes on the like of a mini-wedding. It starts to look like a gift grab too. Showers are supposed to be for family and close friends.
I have been to a couple of showers that were in halls and was basically a small wedding. My opinion is its over the top and the bride gets to talk to no one besides a few words. No good.
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Hello. :) I am planning on having one shower, and there would be around 85-90 ladies invited. Do you think that is to many people for one shower? Should I break it up and have 2? If I have one, should I set it up as an open house? I'm just worried that that will be too many people for one shower, but I would prefer one. Any input would be very helpful. :)