- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
I guess this may be a mini-rant. Or not. I’m not quite sure.
Don’t get me wrong, I love the holidays. And I love my FILs very very much. I feel lucky to be marrying into such a loving and awesome bunch of people.
But that doesn’t mean I want to go to a third Thanksgiving celebration the day before I go back to work.
One of FI’s siblings is planning a get together for this weekend with a bunch of people. Its supposed to be a fun, Thanksgiving themed party with some friends. It sounds fun, but the place they’re having it is an hour away from where most of us live. Not only that, but FI and I are going to be doing Thanksgiving with my family, then driving an hour to do another one with his family later that day. And the day before this friend party, I’ll be driving an hour to help my friend with wedding stuff (she gets married really soon and is stressed out).
I like most of the people who will be going. I don’t like this sibling’s SO (and sometimes this particular sibling really bothers me, but I get along with them for the most part) – however, I realize that I have no right to tell them who to date and I do my best to be polite and civil when I see them. So it really isn’t that so much as the fact that I just don’t want to drive an hour there, eat a bunch of food that isn’t good for you, and then drive another hour home when I have to work the next day. Especially because we have no clue when the food will actually be ready, so I have no way of knowing when we will actually be getting home.
We can’t change the day because the sibling’s work schedule has them working the days before. And I can’t call out sick the day after because I won’t get paid for the holidays. I told FI that he should go without me if he wants to go, but he wants me to go with him. I just want to be able to relax, do a bit of cleaning, and watch my stupid TV shows! I don’t want to run around the state again!
So if I go I’m going to feel fat, miserable, and exhausted the day after. If I don’t go, I’m going to feel like (and possibly be known as) that bitch who didn’t attend – and its entirely possible that FI’s sibling and their SO would say that because they gossip a bit too much at times.
I’m not really looking for advice. FI and I are going to talk it over tonight and figure out what to do. I think I just needed to vent a little bit. Maybe hearing some stories would perk me up a bit though. So if you have a story similar or if you’re dreading the holiday season for some reason, feel free to share!